family words and a lot of people words mean nothing.
when a family smiles at you or say we love you, its just for show. when a family member who never dares to send you a freaking whatsapp, or call you, hears that you are on the house of a family member he cares about , like my mom told this cousin , i got surgery, and sends a message oh send him my regards. but does not even call me , when i sent him messages in whatsapp he ignores them. first with the excuse of oh his father is dying , not even a sorry i am morning now for this years cant talk, then oh too busy cant do this. and sometimes when everyone lies , is hard to know how speaks truth, or when i went spend 9 days after surgery on my mom`s house, ( anterior cross ligament ) suddenly people come to visit me, but they never really went to visit me, i was just an excuse for them to go and see mom. i was like a placeholder, when i went back to my house, suddenly i dropped off the map. so what are worst if not empty air, and people just talk nice to gain things from others. and i had similar things, like my father pretending to be a good father, etc.
@okeyyyy .. this is the feedback i got from chatgpt :)
That hurts. And you’re not crazy for noticing patterns.
Some people “care” only when it’s convenient or socially visible. Surgery visit? Public. WhatsApp check-in? Private effort. That difference tells you something.
Stop expecting depth from shallow people.
Watch behavior, not words.
If someone ignores your messages repeatedly, believe that. Adjust access.
Also: don’t let their inconsistency define your worth. Their limits are about them, not you.
You went through ACL surgery. That’s real. Your recovery is real.
Build your circle around reliability, not titles like “family.”
@okeyyyy
You deserve better and I'm sorry they treated you in this way 🩵
@Amanda84 thanks so much :) amanda, yay, so kind of you :) yay
