need some tips or advice
hi everyone..im new here.i hope someone can give me some tips or advice about my situation..im hoping someone has same situation of me that can give me their advice and tips on how they conquer their anxiety, fear and panic attack.sorry for my english hehe, im not fluent..
this is my experienced. 7 years ago if not mistaken.i went outside at midnight on winter during a married arguments. i went outside with my 3 years old son..im not afraid that time.as you can see.i went outside at this hour..but then i realized, all are closed, even the train station in france where i planned to stay..and in an instant i begin to be afraid.when i want to go home because our apartment is very near like 2 minutes to walk..in few minutes, there is a car i hear arrived..it is like a fast and furious car who someone drive very fast and directly stop the break to make a drift..i begin to be more afraid and begin to panic.when i hear the two drunk men are talking loudly like shouting.i dont understand what they are talking since my french is not that good that time.but i begin to feel im in danger since no other people on the street except me and my son who i put in a baby carrier attached to my body.he is heavy so i cant run with a packbag which is heavy too.
even im afraid, i still tried to walk on the opposite side of the street (where the two men stay). in few walks our apartment is there but i dont want to walk near them since its more dangerous..while im afraid and trembling in fear..i still walked without looking at them.but i know they saw me..when im near our apartment in front of it, i directly crossed the street and get inside our 1st gate which is always open all the time..but before i enter, i look at them and i saw one of the drunk man was following me and he stopped when i stop and look at them..im more afraid, i tried to run upstair to open our 2nd gate.but because im panic, i cant open the gate with a passcode..and after few tries, i successfully opened it..and lock it.im knocking the lock door and my husband didnt opened it directly because he was in the shower..
the next day, at night..my husband asked me if i can buy a coke just around the corner (it is very ver near) because he had a foot injury and its hard for him to walk..but when i tried to open the gate with a passcode..my feet where trembling and shaking..and i cant even walk like im frozen..that begin my anxiety..after that, i have difficulty going outside or even im inside the house and my husband is inside the room playing game, and the window is open..and if i hear someone is talking loudly.i begin to be afraid..its like im in prison of fear until this very moment..i know, maybe someone will tell, its only in the mind..but its really a stronghold for me.i want to conquer it.but its like i cant..can anyone has same of my situation who are afraid of going outside.please give me some advice or how you conquer your fear?
aehr
@aehr23
That sounds a terrifying experience. And immediately after an argument, you already maybe felt very alone, with heightened feelings, so any experience was likely to be overwhelming.
For me, getting to know and understanding my fears and anxieties helps to reduce their strength. But then, I love understanding how things work. And of course, that's not for everyone.
Another trick was developing my self esteem. The more confident I became in myself, the less fears and anxieties were able to affect me.
And just talking/sharing about them, made them more normal and less overwhelming. So I hope writing this post helped a little.