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@Laura Im a male I won’t include my age but ive been dealing with so much anxiety recently. I’ve always been avoidant of relationships because growing up I witnessed my mother and ex stepfather and current stepfather go through so much cheating and other issues between the two. I had a really bad experience with a girl I was talking to that really messed up my confidence in highschool and is definitely a factor of my relationship anxiety. Fast forward to now I am with my first girlfriend that I consider serious because shes my first everything, I love her, and have done alot to keep our relationship going. We had a little issue with this guy that she used to talk to and she made me aware that they were on good terms but never mentioned they still talked. One day it was brought up in a conversation over the phone where she let on that they still talked. I felt a way about it so i got silent then hung up, she then proceeded to send me a paragraph full of really dumb excuses for it. We got past it but she kept mentioning it and offered to show me messages but I was tired of that so I was decided her texting him and seeing his real intentions was better. I couldn’t even talk because my chest started to hurt and it almost felt like I was going to throw up so I told her it was fine. Fast forward to present I feel like the energy has shifted and i can’t stop thinking about what might be happening and its putting me on edge causing issues i usually wouldn’t make and she keeps telling me everything is okay but somethings different. I honestly just don’t know how to control my anxiety and think about the situation less