How to Deal With Big News
I've had a few big bomb drops on me lately, and it hits me in the gut complete whenever someone says "I have something important to talk about." I go into full on panic mode. Whether or not I know what the person wants to talk about, I melt down. I just can't deal with big issues. Because they all seem to come to me and I'm overloaded.
I just don't know what to do anymore but I'm constantly walking on eggshells and just - scared. It's making me hide from people or run away from them. I know that's not good, but I'm just trying to protect myself. It's like I want everyone else to deal with the stuff, and then just come to me and say "we figured it out, and it's okay, and you can relax."
@thoughtfulmomma
Hello there thoughtfulmomma!
It's not bad that you want to protect yourself. 💜 If something makes you feel overwhelmed and gives you anxiety, you shouldn't be forced to listen to it.
Relax, do things you like and keep on with your self care that is "asking you" to set high boundaries with those that reach you out to share things you are uncomfortable hearing.
I've heard sometimes we should also "detox" from the News for a while, focusing on different things. I understand your need to be less exposed to people's problems, I hope those you know can also understand that your well-being is important.
Take good care of yourself!
@thoughtfulmomma
Dealing with big news can be incredibly stressful and overwhelming for a lot of people, especially if they have had difficult past experiences, but I'm proud of you for opening up on the internet as that is a really brave thing to do. I completely understand why you feel like this and considering you have had "a few big bomb drops" on you recently then you have every right to. Like meaningfulsilence said, its totally okay to want to protect yourself, don't feel bad, if something is giving you anxiety it's within your right to step away to try and restore a peaceful mind. You say, you want them to figure it out without involving you, and that would be amazing in the short term, and then maybe, come back to receiving the news slowly in small steps after several months when your mind is in a healthier state. This way, you won't be preventing your development. For the present though, have you ever thought about telling your friends / family how much this is troubling you? Maybe it is also important to find ways to relax or things you enjoy doing as a better way of expressing your emotions instead of just running away or hiding from them. I completely understand you feel like breaking down whenever someone even remotely hints that they have got news - randomness really doesn't help and can cause you to overthink about your issues. I understand how difficult it is, but I believe in you, and the 7cups community are all here for you! You will get through this, you just need to believe in yourself! Have a wonderful day, and I wish you an amazing life, please look after yourself, and remember you are loved! Stay safe and best wishes!