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thoughtfulmomma
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When things are bad, I'm suffering with anxiety issues with a touch of OCD to make it worse.

When things are going great, I love playing games, watching TV and going for hikes in nature.

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I am having a perfectly stressful day
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 June 3rd
...See more Anxiety and control go hand in hand.  When everything is under control, anxiety is low.  When everything is out of my control, anxiety is high. Today has been soooooo stressful and I have had a million things to do - not for me, mind you - for others - and just when I am at a point where I am a few hours away from getting everything done, someone has to throw a wrench into it and change all the plans. NO.  That's not cool.  That's not the way it's supposed to happen. I'm completely freaked out and stressed and irritated and all of the above.   There are so many times where I just need to not hear about anyone else's problems or issues or whatever.  I just want to live in my own bubble for a few weeks to decompress, heal, relax.
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Resilience
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 June 1st
...See more I have been doing really well with my anxiety.  REALLY well.  I've been proud of myself.  Therapy is going well, I'm understanding why I react to things a certain way and how I can make changes. But then - BAM - a problem pops up in life that has just knocked the wind right out of me.  It's nothing catastrophic.  It's just regular life where things break down and you have to fix them.  You know - your washing machine breaks down.  Your car breaks down. That sort of thing. This annoying but typical problem just grabbed onto my anxiety and won't let me go.  Even though we've got a resolution, we've figured out a plan of action, etc. - it's not letting go.  My body still feels it. Why?  I can't figure it out.  It's so stressful. It would be one thing if there was no resolution, but there is a resolution.  Things are okay.  And yet, I'm holding on to this.
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Sending a Hug to Everyone Who Needs It
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 April 26th
...See more I woke up this morning feeling quite sad, depressed, and with a severe lack of motivation.  I just wanted to grab a blanket and curl up on the couch.  I needed a hug, but there were no hugs around.  Even my cat was somewhere else in the house. I had a good chat with a friend who called, and it made me feel a bit better.  So, I wanted to send a hug out to anyone who needs one today but doesn't have anyone around to give one.  
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Advertisers now?
Site Updates / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 April 2nd
...See more Not sure if there's something messed up on my end, but when I log into the site via my laptop, I see advertisements around the screen.  ??  I don't see anything when I'm on the app on the phone.  Just want to see if it's new (I was on the site 3 days ago and didn't see anything) or it's a problem I need to correct.
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A week of struggles
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 January 23rd
...See more I haven't had this much anxiety for a very long time.  I don't know why I'm feeling like this...well, that's a lie.  I know why, sort of.  Some people are doom scrollers, I'm a doom thinker.  My brain can never keep me in the present moment.  No matter how much mindfulness I practice, it's fleeting.  A minute or two and then it jumps to the next big problem.  But no problems are there. Over the weekend a problem occurred.  It wasn't a terrible problem.  Just one of those things that pop up that makes things inconvenient.  It was solved a few days later, but in those days between, I panicked about the issue, over and over, thinking of all the negative things about it.  Even though no one else was.  Even though everyone else understood that it would be resolved and it wasn't a big deal. Then, once it was resolved I relaxed...for a few minutes.  My brain decided that wasn't good enough, and so it started looking for something else to worry about - and it found it.  It has made me start thinking about "what if" scenarios for the upcoming weekend.  It made me start doom thinking again.  It created a negative scenario and now I am thinking about how I can fix and solve a problem THAT DOESN'T EVEN EXIST!!! I'm so tired of this.  I was never like this before.  The past few years have just been stressful and it has flipped everything I think and feel on end and I am TIRED of feeling this way. I know I have to be present, to be in the moment, to not dwell on things that haven't happened, to not make up stories in my head.  To just enjoy what is happening, right here, right now, in this minute.  Because everything is okay.   I just don't know how to do it, and every day I live this way is one more day I'm not happy.
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Dwelling on my triggers
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 January 20th
...See more The past few days I have had to confront a couple of things that trigger my anxiety.  It seems that no matter how hard I work to rid myself of them, they keep showing up.  They are inevitably caused by others, so as much as I would like to control them, I can't.  I can't only control how I react to them.  (I know, I know.) I do not like to be the middle person.  I do not like it when two people won't talk to each other, and they use me to be the go between.  Like they're too scared to converse with each other.  (These are family members.)  It's SO frustrating.  I don't want to be the person everyone comes to.  Why does one person have to ask me if the other person has done something?  Can't they ask them?  And I have told these people this.  Over and over again.  And yet they ignore my request and continue to put me in the middle. I know it seems like such a small thing (sometimes triggers seem so small, but feel so big), but I just want to have some breathing room and not have to deal with everyone else's problems or be involved in everyone else's problems.  I have enough of my own I'm trying to resolve! :)
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Which is worse?
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 31st, 2025
...See more Yesterday I had a pretty good day as far as my anxiety goes. I woke up feeling good, I had a nice, relaxing day. I didn’t feel anxious and didn’t let the things that normally worry me get to me. Today, that anxiety was back. Not full on, but it was there, whispering in the back of my brain “I’m still here!!!” I don’t know which is worse. Just having anxiety every day or having a moment that feels good only to go back to anxiety the next day. It’s almost easier to just be anxious all the time so that I don’t get my hopes up that I’ll have a series of good days. That’s probably not a great way to think about it, but it’s so lousy to crash after feeling so good and normal for a while.
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Merry Christmas
Anxiety Support / by thoughtfulmomma
Last post
 December 25th, 2025
...See more Merry Christmas, my anxious companions. I hope we all find a little extra peace today. 🎄
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