Commitment Phobia: What

Understanding What Exactly Commitment Phobia Is:

Commitment Phobia is something we might see often and it actually happens to both men and women. Its a very painful experience both for the person suffering from it and whoever is involved with that person. Its the avoidance of long-term relationships. The thing is that this whole concept is way more pervasive than it might seem, its not just being afraid of getting into long-term relationships or pushing away a really good partner material. People who fear committing to a relationship will often have difficulty committing to other simpler decisions too and it will affect their school work and home life as well. For example: they may have trouble deciding on careers, where to travel on vacation, what to eat for dinner and the list just goes on and on. The irony is that we sometimes fear what we most need - in case it doesnt work out !

Things That Might Have Resulted In Developing This Kind Of Phobia (There Are Endless Probabilities):

♦ It may be that deep down the person fears being vulnerable or rejected.

♦ They may feel that the consequences of a future relationship breakdown would be the worse the more time they invest in that relationship.

♦ They may have history of painful breakups.

♦ They may have witnessed the rocky relationships of parents and have the blueprint that no relationship ever works out.

Signs You Might Be Commitment-Phobic:

♦ You have chronic issues committing yourself to just one person.

♦ You feel as though relationships hold you back.

♦ You still feel emotionally scarred from previous relationships.

♦ Even your best relationships end for the smallest reasons.

♦ Feeling dread or terror at the thought of marriage.

♦ You understand that such fear is irrational but youre unable to control it.

♦ You back out of plans at the last minute.

♦ You have trouble setting a time for dates.

♦ Youre just looking for perfection in all the wrong places.

Quick Tips For The Commitment-Phobic Person:

♦ Engage in the present moment. Be right here, right now with the person you are with.

♦ Know and accept that nothing and no one is perfect.

♦ Practice meditation regularly as a way to calm anxiety. The instinct to run and escape often is a way to calm anxiety. So use another way to calm that feeling state that is sabotaging your relationships.

♦ Name your fear, ask yourself: What exactly am I afraid of?

♦ Become more decisive: indecisiveness becomes a habit over time.

♦ Imagine the fear of commitment has gone: perhaps write down in detail your future life without the fear.

♦ Take good care of yourself (Eating healthy, avoiding caffeine or sugars, getting exercise, getting fresh air, spending quality time with close ones and most of all relaxing)

Its Discussion Time!

Please answer the questions given c:

1) After reading, do you think youve got any signs of developing Commitment Phobia?

2) How long have you been suffering from Commitment Phobia?

3) Do you know anyone who might be actually developing such Phobia according to what you read?

4) How does Commitment Phobia affect your lifestyle?

5) How does Commitment Phobia affect your mental health?

6) In your opinion, What should be your next step regarding this issue?

Helpful Links:

Reasons youre afraid of commitment (what to do about it)
Meditating website/application