I need some advice ?
I always think this one person is talking or is negative towards me ( due to past experience years ago ) some how when i see them or they walk past me ,
Its hard to explain ,
the other day i saw that this person was walking to wait outside the classroom next to mine i saw that they were coming and i got nervous even though i have know real reason to be worried ,
anyway they walked up the stairs and just as they were about to past me i notice them cough ( i know wow they coughed , stay with me here i know its ridiculous )
at that very moment i immeadietly felt as if that cough was to signify like a haha because they saw that i was standing there as they continued to walk past it was all good they just walked past me like any normal person would ( bare in mind i was still thinking about that damn cough )
anyway we were waiting outside the classroom for a bit everyones kind of quiet just waiting for the door to be opened , this person is standing kind of daydreaming maybe i dont know with their group of friends like 3 meters away from me waiting to get in to their classroom not a real reason for concern right , anyway i heard one of their friends ( the person ive been talking about this whole time ) on eof their friends say that persons name and i noticed or thought that they looked over straight at me as if to signify kind of we cant say anything about you because your standing right here, but i know that they know their friend might tthink it was funny that i was standing right there and thats why they said that persons name to get there attention so they would look over at me to aknowledge that they knew they would of known it was funny thhat i was standing there , hard to explain sorry
anyway i felt that in this situation i was being looked apon negatively and made fun of ,
now i jump to this conclusion alot and believe it or not i came to a conclusion this person ive been talking about and someone else were laughing at me when i walked past but i found out the next day i was wrong and had nothing to worry about so i know i can be wrong
anyway sorry for rambling i just wanted to explain his the best i could
now i would like , mainly because im curious to know do you truly honestly believe that i do have something to be worried when i come up with these conclusions for situations
should i just trust my gut feeling even though i have little and or no infomation or facts to back up why in that very situation i felt that that person was being negative towards me in someway
like what if i believe all this and it turns out the other person wasnt generally wasnt even trying to be negative towards me even though i kind of felt like it was , they just walked past as if any random person would
i was already anxious just by seeing this person because i felt that i knew for a fact i would ,if i saw this person come up with one of these overthinking thoughts
or do i really have nothing to worry about , you think they just walked past me to get to there classroom and there is no real reason for me to be worried and ive just overthought this as if for some reason im just looking to far in to this there is no problem nothing to worry about and im making a problem out of nothing
i always ask my sister about these situations i have like to see if it sounds real when i explain it to other people and she has always said no i think your just making a problem out of nothing and i need to stop overthinking and being paranoid about everything because surely times have chaged and i dont have a factual reason to be worried
sorry for ramblng i would love some advice on why i overthink everything
Thankyou So Much
@simplyyoliviaa1511n Hello!!!
Firstly it is never nice to be on the end of this sort of thing! It can feel hostile and exclusive and make you feel singled out and depressed! It can also cause you to play it over and over and this sort of thinking causes you to think up more points to focus on so something small can be imagined into something big if you follow what I mean? Thats not to say youre making it up in your mind it just means that when we focus on something negative, and we all do it, it can become more than it was in reality.
The main point I wanted to make here is that you can never stop or control people talking about you or thinking badly about you and usually when people do this it is because you reflect something in them that they dislike and makes them insecure it rarely has anything to do with you as a person but more to do with them. To be frank and what helps me in these situations is to remember that what they thinka nd say about me is none of my business unless they say it to me. If that makes sense?
Dont let other peoples negativity drag you downwards. Continue with your day, dont focus on it, it is their issue not yours. Let them come to you if they feel they need but dont involve your happiness in what they say or feel about you. You are worthy of more than that!
Find time to do something you enjoy to relax you and take your mind off things for a while and this will fade off.
Hugs to you! x
@sunshineKitty58 Thankyou so much
so I guess your saying that you think that this person is really being negative towards me
Maybe I don't know
@simplyyoliviaa1511
You could be totally correct that their behavior indicates what you suspect. But in the end, it's their loss for judging you before really getting to know you.
@MouKarai Thankyou so much