Anxiety about family

Hi,

My parents want to see me next weekend, which is the weekend of my birthday. In therapy, I roleplayed completely saying no to them and saying I was too busy to meet up. However, my mom sent me another text saying she really wants to drop off something in person, so idk what to do. I am debating if I still feel strong enough to say a full no or agree to meet strictly for an hour for quick coffee.

Also, I told my therapist I wanted to be more open with my mom that I still feel anxious to meet them and that I really want them to practice managing their stress and coping skills to help me feel comfortable. My therapist kind of shut down this idea which frustrated me a lot because I hate when therapists try to influence my decisions like that. Now I am confused if I should go against my therapist and follow my original plan.

-Day