Anxiety and sexual frustration
I am experiencing quite unpleasant episodes of anxiety. This is not something new to me, in difficult situations I always shake and my heart beats so fast that is preventing me from adequate reaction,therefore i do not deal well with confrontation.My story is regarding a sexual frustration which is resulting in a non-orgasmic environment and constant feuds with my one and only. I have a low sex drive,never had an orgasm, nor do I believe i soon will have. I think that something is wrong with me, i am not bothered by the fact of it, but there are moments in which i wish to be normal, so that i can have a healthy relationship.Anyways, my boyfriend is feeling betrayed of the fact that i don't finish. He blames me for not trying and expects of me to be more engaging and to work on this problem. I was given comparisons of previous relationships, in which everyone is doing the intimate act with a happy ending. I don't know how to explain that this is more frustrating to me as i reassured him that the issue is not him. I am not feeling safe or understood, which i think has to do with the problem. I don't know.
@winchesterrose
Thank you for sharing openly here. I completely understand it must be difficult. Your partner is entirely out of line for saying these things to you, as was anyone who said them before. They are speaking of some expectation for you to perform for him, and that is completely wrong and inappropriate. It sounds as if none of others comments come from a place of caring, of concern or compassion for you. I am so sorry that you have had these responses. You are right to focus on what is good for you, and if your partner expects you to perform for him, that is not good for you, obviously.
I beleive in you, and I believe you can find good for you. I'm not sure if you can find it with these expectations. You know yourself best, and that seems to be the best way to start to go forward - to find ways to be happy with yourself.
I am glad you are here. I undersand entirely this is difficult. Thank you for sharing. Best wishes.
