Desperate
Hello. How do i get over my constant need for affection and attention? i have this girl i have been friends with for a while now, we love each other but we are not currently together. We talk on a regular basis but when she doesnt text back of if i ask a question and i dont get an answer i feel like she doesnt love me anymore even when she has told me many times before or that she's found someone new. Anyone else relate? how can i get over it? please help.
@cakampurira It must be hard to be affected by frequent worries of being abandoned. Maybe you can reassure yourself by creating a lists of neutral, objective reasons she may not be replying to you quickly, or not at all? For example: "She is in the middle of something", "She is not feeling up for social interactions", "She doesn't know how to respond", etc. And you can add phrases of how she loves and appreciates you at the end of that list as well. Hope that helps.
@FinleyTews
Those are all great statements! Maybe to help boost these great ideas, I want to share that I like to say things like this to myself: "They're probably trying to come up with a witty reply, or trying to think of a clever response, or hoping they can match my feeling/interest/intention with something equally good!"
if she does not want constant affection and attention like you then stop it dude
let it naturally happen the things, the attention, the affection okay
come on looks like you watched so much anime that it has affected your mind
i like affection and attention and all, but if it's constant it becomes freaking boring to the other person