Everyone feels more put together in life than me
I just feel as though everyone is more put together in life than me. Meanwhile I am struggling to find answers for myself for example what I want to do in life. I've been trying things to keep these thoughts in check but sometimes they just seep in you know? I don't exactly know what it's going to take to get over these feeling when they hit but I'm open to suggestions. Thank you for reading.
@CrimsonSkys3
It is OK that you do not know what to do in life. People figured out their lives along their life path by try and error. Explore more different things that you may or even may not interest in. Practice mindfulness and living in the moment. When you find something that brings you joy, that will be your answer.
For the feeling that seems other people are more put together. There are two things to check out.
- Reference point. Who you try to compare with? Celebrity, people older than you or peers? The false reference point will bring the false comparison because you are different environment, generation, background...etc than them.
- Information resource. Where is the information comes from? People tend to put the things they feel cool on social media and skip the not-so-cool ones. That means the information that you received is already filtered by the post owner. This type of unbalance information creates illusions that everything is awesome in that person's life.
Be aware of these situations. Hope you find peace in your mind.
I would say the same thing.. I think we all feel like this somedays more than others. But comparison is a waste of energy. I have discovered that when I find someone who looks put together or someone I wish my life was like. I would learn more about the person, I ask them about their life and struggles. Usually I'm shocked at the amount of suffering they went through or the adversities they have to overcome. They may look put together, but they have been through a lot.. No one is born put together. It takes hard work and perseverance and to befriend your soul.. become at ease with who you are and people will ask you how come you look so well put together.