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Hello everyone! I'm Odette, and new here. I wanted to hear about your coping mechanisms. Sometimes I find it difficult not to think that i'm a failure, even when I try my best. It really stresses me out. And my mum does not make it any easier. She gets very angry with me when I don't clean up my room because I was studying for college. Right now, the only thing that kind of calms me down, is a cigarette and music, but I'm trying to quit smoking. What do you all recommend?
@OdetteSwan,Well I have to admit Honestly that it can be incredibly challenging when ppl in your home aint supporting you in both yiur good and bad.One thing you can try doing is to reason.For eg:saying I couldn't focus on keeping the room clean as I was busy studying.But then again parents (or anyone for that matter) Should be approachable.And am extremely happy that you have decided to quit that.It will really serve you well.Like many people dont dont even have a desire for that.So thats the first step 👏🏾
As for feeling like a failure, again its getting to know where you are going wrong and what are the possible solutions.This is done by both self-reflections and if needed be seeking different perspectives from ppl you trust.As for changing habits,I guess you would agree that inherently we all have a tendency to be drawn towards the bad things-drugs,alcohol,cigarettes,and what not ? So as they say there aint anything as removing a bad habit,but substituting with a healthy routine such that you dont feel need for cigarettes and so....Anyway hope this helps,and good luck :)
@OdetteSwan The other day I read preview of a book titled "Change-power" by Mes Selig.I really liked her approach and seems like someone who understands how to steer one's mind towards one's liking.So please do read its preview and buy it if you like it,if its convenient for you....