How to deal with awkwardness/uncomfortability
I'm terrible at putting my thoughts into words but i'll try my best..
So i'm 24, live with my mum and brother who do everything for me. I stay up all night and sleep all day since I was about 17. But i'm far too awkward to even be in the same room as either of them, can't talk about anything because of anxiety. I haven't left the house in almost a year, which is fine because I love being alone and I have plenty to do during the nights which I enjoy very much. And the fact my mum and brother sleep while i'm awake makes it more comfortable but if I hear someone come downstairs, I have to pause the tv and mute it until they go back upstairs, feel too awkward to watch anything knowing they're there. We live in the same house and I haven't seen my mum for about a month, and when I do see her it's for like 10 seconds in an uncomfortable silence. I keep avoiding her to avoid being uncomfortable.
I definitely don't want to change the way I live, I love it. Being on my own all night with loads to do (TV, gaming, gambling etc), having absolutely no responsibilities or commitments, getting 10+ hours of sleep every day, so changing the way I live is out of the question. No chance in hell that will ever happen, I have zero intention of ever getting a job, becoming involved in a relationship or becoming independent. Makes me a pretty horrible human being probably but I really couldn't care less, I enjoy my life that's all that matters to me.
Only thing I want to change is how to deal with the anxiety/awkwardness I have around my family, i was too awkward to even text my dad 'happy birthday' a few days ago.
I've probably missed out a lot of things, or explained things poorly, like I said i'm terrible with explaining stuff and using words etc this is the best I can do. Thanks.
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@resourcefulPomegranate2227
Okay, so what I'm gonna say can be a bit harsh for your ears but feel free to ignore this reply if you wish, I don't want to involve in any banter.
1. You are happy right now with your present living arrangements but are those around you too? I don't think any parent would be happy if their adult son sleeps all day, spends his waking hours wasting time, has no source of income, is dependent on them financially, has no plans on being independent financially or otherwise, ever and has no ambition. I think it is selfish to think of just your own comfort and not thinking about the people who are providing you resources to live that comfortable life.
Also, do you expect to live like this while you're 40? 50? and older? You can think yes right now, but what's the guarantee that you'd wouldn't regret spending your days like this ten or twenty years from now? I don't wanna give you a lecture about the importance of time but seriously, it is the prime of your life, it's the time to go out, meet new people(if that's your thing), make new contacts, develop a hobby, a skill something you can be proud of. With the time you've got, you could be learning a new language, a musical instrument, teaching yourself to program or doing loads of other things that people wish to do but don't have time or money to do.
About feeling awkward thing, you can't expect to feel comfortable around people, if you haven't seen them in a year much less talked to them. But if you want to make an improvement upon that, you could start from your family. Talk to them once a day at least about how their day go,what did they do(maybe that will motivate you to get out) or maybe start by texting them and then talk to them. Have at least one meal a day(if you aren't already) with them, maybe by actually conversing with them you'll know what they think about life, how happy they are because you want to or not, but if they're providing for you when you're well into adulthood, then yeah their opinion matters.
In short, get out of that damn house and explore this world. Sometimes when we are in our comfortable zone, it is easy to get lost and forget about other beautiful things that life has to offer to us. But at least make an attempt to get to know them.
P.S.: feel free to ignore above if you're some filthy rich guy and think you dont need job andado other stuff but I guess if filthy rich guys are wasting their life then yeah, they need to make changes too.