I started a new job, and I'm kind of nervous?
Hi guys,
Whenever I'm at work I get so nervous (especially doing the cash register) that I'm not working fast enough, or that I'm not getting orders right. I also did just start this job a few weeks ago but I am kind of getting used to things.
I work a coworker (she's an older lady, like 3x times older as me), and I feel maybe she doesn't like me? I feel like she's always micro-managing me, and she's never telling my other coworkers what to do. That makes sense because I'm new, and maybe I'm misunderstanding things. But I could be working on the trash, and cleaning the floor -- or I'll stop to do other things she tells me to do. And as I'm doing those things, she's telling me of more things to do.
I also do have bad anxiety and I guess it can be noticed easily, so I feel maybe she's taking advantage of that because she thinks or knows I'm too shy / anxious to really "be independent" and without "being told what to do" if that makes any sense.
Does anyone have any advice on this?
Thank you.
(Sorry that this was long)
@MindfulTimer890 I understand what that feels like. It can be really frustrating to be starting somewhere new and to feel targeted by someone. The key I have found in my world is to stop and forgive myself for my anxiety and what it makes me feel. She obviously needs to get a sense of empowerment from somewhere. Just be patient and do your best to keep an emotional distance. Find a mantra or mental space/image inside yourself when this happens with this person, or imagine they are talking to you from the television. Always be polite and kind in your interactions. The key is to find yourself in a space of observation, where their action has nothing to do with your reaction. This takes practice, but I have found when I do that the person seeking to find their sense of empowerment through less than positive considerate means tends to lighten their hold, even become an ally.
Hi @tworld,
Thank you for taking the time to have to read my post and answered me. I'll try doing what you suggested. I just hope things get better and work out. : (
@MindfulTimer890 Been there! My first job was in retail and I get that anxiety. If you're new, don't forget: everyone has to start somewhere. You're likely not going to be an expert. And that's okay.
Without being there it could be hard to say what it is. She may not like you. Her style/personality may not be a match for you. The two of you just may need time to get to know one another.
Give yourself some space and time. But keep in mind that if this continues, you may want to speak to a supervisor about this. Good luck! And congrats on your new job!!! :)
Hey @ReadBooksDrinkTea,
Thank you for replying back to me as well too. Yeah, I do hope things get better at work. I feel like I may address this to my main manager if things continue (especially months in), but yeah, maybe it will take some time for them to better know me and get used to working with me. It's just uncomfortable to work in an environment like that, and it makes my anxiety kind of even worse.
Thank you again.
: )