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My boyfriend may be going to prison for 10 years.

User Profile: LunaTrella
LunaTrella December 1st, 2019

My boyfriend may be going to prison for 10 years.

I knew his criminal history when I met him. I accepted and embraced him regardless. He wanted to change his life around when he met me and I was there to help him through the changes. He had moved all the way from Florida to Kansas to make this change. I met him in his first week here in Kansas. We've been together for 2 years now and he's been doing so great. I'm in love with the person he is and the person he's becoming. He left the past in the past and has such a bright future ahead of him.

He got pulled over the other day for speeding. He got detained for a warrant thats years old in Florida. I bailed him out but he still has to go Florida in 3 months for his court date. He had sold heroin and coke to an undercover cop and he has video and audio evidence of the exchange. They basically told him if he snitches on his dealer (which he won't) they'll go easy on him. And he doesn't he'll be facing up to 10 years. Ten years. Wow.

I don't know what to do. I'm so lost. I knew his past. But he's changed. And now his past is coming to bite him hard. I've talked with a couple friends who are considering being my roomate if worst comes to worst. But I'm tired of planning for the worst. For considering the worst. For acknowledging there may be a worst.

I want to be with him. He's the first boyfriend I've ever had who's this serious about being with me. We have talked about marriage. We've discussed parenting techniques. I love him wholeheartedly. And now we're being faced with this.

Can we make it? Can I hold out for 10 years? Will we start back at where we are now when he gets out? I'm so scared.

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User Profile: SecretlyMe
SecretlyMe February 13th, 2020

This must be a difficult decision for you and unfortunately I can't tell you what to do. Only you can balance the pros and cons of the situation. Only you can know if the relationship can endure a possible 10 year separation or how you will be in the event of a break up.

Sorry that you are eeven forced to think about this. Hopefully there is some way this can be avoided and you two find a way to live together happily. I wish you luck friend.