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My girlfriend is boring me!

User Profile: LAnonUser
LAnonUser January 4th, 2019

My girlfriend borring me a lot, because of this things:

- She think of her is doing more homework then me. She cleans the house and only go walk with her dog, because my dog disturbs the other. Put water for them, sometimes collect the clothes, dificultly cooks. She works 6h/day and have 2 days where she does not work in the mornings.

Meanwhile i put the dinner table, morning coffe table, collects it, store the food, cooks for the week sometimes in the middle of it, clean the house, clean the clothes, collects it, clean the tablewares every day. Go walk with my dog. Clean their messy. Besides work 8,8h/day from monday to friday. How i develop software and uses a lot of concentration, i get home tired, and i just get some rest, when she is not home. So i read book, play games.

Then she comes home and does not like who i read books, or play games because she thinks who i need to get cooking for her and doing all her needs every time she wants. I dont know what to do with it.

I have my own software projects who i need to develop and learn out of the work, so i need to study, and she dont understands that, althought whe have a lot of conversation every time.

She does not like to eat another days food, but she does not like to cook too, so she expects me to do all things for her, and i dont want to. If she have 2 mornings free, why she dont do in this time?

We are have finantial troubles because of the excess of spetns in december, and dont have money to eat out of home every day.

Another thing who is borring me is that she every time says who the other relationship of her is better, even is their dont love each other, because him do the things for her. And she base our relationship on one another. She listen other women saying who her boyfriend gonna cook and she wants me to cook too. But i'm not the other guy.

Maybe she is doing that because of jealous, but she does not gets on my skin, she does not see the things like me and dont have consideration about the things i already do.

Any ideas of what to do? I'm thinking in get away, because she already revealed she dont want to change not a little bit. She says yet who she does not need help from no other because she have passed a lot of problems in his life and knows how to resolve them. Besides she does not like therapists and groups of help.

Maybe she only wants my attention, but every time i give to her a little of my attention, she wants more, ultil some day i will be his slave, having no time for my self and my plans.

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User Profile: GrahZeymahzin
GrahZeymahzin January 4th, 2019

@LAnonUser

It sounds like the situations with your girlfriend are really frustating. Have you tried talking to her about how you have been feeling about how things have been going? Or do you think it may help to try to set something up together where you can both agree what you can and cannot do and what roles each of you should have in how things should work moving forwards? Or if you have tried talking to her, what do you think would best help you? What do you think would be best for you, finding a way out of the relationship, or trying to work towards a healthier relationship if that would work?