Overconscious of the "gaze"

I'm sorry I hope i dont sound like a narcissist or something :(

I remember having these feelings when I was first starting puberty. My mom was way too excited about it. She told everyone; all her sisters, my older sister and my sister-in-law, people at work, probably random people she met too. I absolutely hated it, and I hated that I had to wear bras and that people knew I was wearing them. I think I waited like a year or more before I told her I got my period. I would never change in front of her or my sisters or even my friends even though we were all girls. I didn't even feel comfortable wearing bikinis in public for the longest time.

I think the way that we are treated by others, especially our mothers or people close to us, can greatly impact how we view and carry ourselves. I still have little thoughts sometimes like someone is going to say something about my body parts or underwear, mostly my mom, because I had a lot of anxiety about it when I was growing up. She still makes comments sometimes but I've learned to deal with it. I've also talked to her about it, and in just general to not tell everyone about my personal life without my consent.

I don't think it's fair for someone else to dictate what we should or shouldn't care about, or how we should or shouldn't feel about something. I think if you feel uncomfortable with how your mother approaches a situation, she should know not to do it. I would not want random men to see my underwear. I think you should have the freedom to dress how you feel comfortable.