Please.. Help..
I find myself having a random panic attack at work, which leads me to start crying in front or everyone or skipping work all together. After that event, I find it harder to go back to work. My anxiety triples at that point. Finally, I never go back. This has happened during the summer with almost 4+ jobs. I lost count. I work on my anxiety with meditation, writing, brain activity, etc. But when I need it the most, it doesn't work.
My biggest question is why, when I know everything will be ok, do I still cry? I feel like my mind is saying, "See, if you don't do as I say (stay home or avoid work), I'll make it worse for you (cry in front of everyone and have them question what's wrong or if I can even handle work..)" I want it to stop..
Thank you for reading this.
@BbyJazmine3542
Do you know any grounding techniques to help you when your anxiety does start to rise?
Heres a few that work for me:
- deep breaths. This works to calm down and refocus your brain
- 5,4,3,2,1 method (5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things cou can hear, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste). This works to pull your brain back into the moment by focusing on the physical things around you.
I have cried during panic attacks too. It happened as I was going through security at a football game. I used the 2nd method and repeated it when I felt my anxiety creeping up again to help keep myself sane.
I hope that you can get your anxiety under control.
@goldenDog9992 I've heard of those. I've tried the breathing technique, and others. They work when I am having low anxiety. But when it's at a higher level, it only makes things a roller coaster for me. It'll work while I do it, but the second I'm done, it's back. 😩
@BbyJazmine3542
hmm...
Just wondering, what do you do for a job?
@goldenDog9992 Well, I am out of one now. But it's all been some sort of retail or resturant job. Either cashier or my last one with the most anxiety was dishwasher. The work isn't hard at all. It's, majority of the time, customers or lazy people I work with.
@BbyJazmine3542
Have you considered working at home?
@goldenDog9992 I have, and I have been trying to, but all I find is survey stuff that is bs, "gigs" you have to put money into before making money, and freelancing, which requires talent and experiance I don't have. I decided to go to school to hopefully help out. But at this point and time, landing an at home job is almost unrealistic.
@BbyJazmine3542
hmm...
is there any place you could get a job with minimal human interaction?
@goldenDog9992 Possibly. I am just not sure what that would be. I've applied for housekeeping, but that's all I can think of. Do you have ideas of what jobs are out there like that?
@BbyJazmine3542
Hello Jasmine,
Big hug dear for the struggle you are going through. Really appreciate you did not hesitate to ask for help.
I can understand it tough to manage our self when thing happen by us which are unexpected and not easy to forgot and the energy it left in us.
Can see you are trying all your best to overcome it.
Would love to talk to you one to one but it late night here.
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@blindHeart12 thank you. I will reach out to you if I ever need help like that again. Thank you, it really means a lot.
@BbyJazmine3542
Hey, it's okay. I have been having random crying fits too. I just start crying out of nowhere. I find the trick is to try to think what I want to hear right now. Often I realize if I talk to myself or somebody else I was crying because something was upsetting me or has been weighing on me.
Sometimes even when we know things will be okay in our heads our hearts don't really feel the same way. So we need to hear it from somebody else. Or just hear it from ourselves out loud.
And if your anxious about crying at work and then having to go back, don't be. Everybody has difficult days. Especially when they work customer service and retail. My friend who has extreme anxiety issues worked at an awful fast food place with me where the customers could be really awful and cruel. It was tough. Some people would bring us close to tears. Nobody we worked with judged us for getting upset. Coworkers experience the same kinds of stress and pressure you do and often have things going on at home. Don't worry about people thinking less of you who work with you. And customers come and go. They can be awful or very kind. But you only have to deal with them a little while.
Also, from that experience I learned working in fast food was not healthy for me emotionally. So I started looking for entry level jobs stocking products and such. If in the end no amount of coping techniques or strategies are helping, maybe you just need a change and a job that will suit you better. Why distress yourself over and over when there might be a job where you feel happy and safe waiting for you?
I know exactly how you feel jasmine. I experience this everyday at work. It's funny cuz I also work in a customer service environment too. How long you been there?
I know when I started I had issues I would be doing everything wrong but I know that was the job role but found I couldn't connect with people and those avoided me. I still feel the same that a few still do but I know I'm better then I was. I got help in work, I had someone seeing my regularly, they spoke to my managers, told them about my issues and that I need reassurance. I didn't know I was going through hard time. I soon realised I needed help for support in work
I don't have it no more but not to say Im ok but better then I've been. I still need with my issues, reassurance and help. Just don't need to feel like a failure all time.
You need to do what is best for you forget
