Relationships
I have been struggling with anxiety and I just dont know how to function like a normal person in a relationship. I get nervous even thinking about hugging and kissing this boy I have been into for a while. He likes me back and he knows my issues and says he will be patient. I want to be with him but I dont know how to overcome these fears of hugging him and kissing him
Hi bunny, welcome to the forums . This first time you posted? If so welcome and if not hi and welcome .
The guy who your into seems to be a decent guy anyway . It's good that he understands, not pushing you or making you do something . It's lucky you have someone like him and I'm glad your both on same page .
It maybe more of a problem to you then his but why do you feel you need to do these things like cuddle and kiss anytime soon? Isn't having reassurance make you feel better .I would like to know why you feel that way? It don't seem to me you need to rush anytime soon cuz everything seems to be going ok .
I don't know if you spoken to anyone about this but I would believe that talking to someone will help you get a different perspective maybe someone who knows your or has been there. Maybe a doctor and explore your feelings with them .Let them give you help with anything and anything your unsure about.
It's good to start talking and not hiding away . You should feel proud and when it happens it will happen naturally . Just don't change who you are . Right now you got a guy what likes you and that's all egst matters .
@TreaureSeekers3 yeah I suppose, I have spoken to a doctor about my anxiety over all but not this specific thing. Its not that I feel the need to rush into things its just that I want to be a good girlfriend for him and I dont feel like I can be anymore than friends with him. Im nervous about anything and everything that happens with me and him. He invited me to his house and I almost had a panic attack
Been struggling my whole relationship with my anxiety and depression. It gets so bad that I over think anything and everything he says to me. I take things so personally and it really affects me in the long run because I just dont stop thinking about that particular comment. He always tells me he is only joking around and trying to have fun. I just feel like Im a party pooper all the time and can never shake off the negative feelings I have inside. It is affecting everything I do
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It feels like my best friend and I are drifting apart and I really want to save this friendship. But it seems like another person has gotten her interest. Maybe she is bored of me:(
I have a girlfriend, and when were together everything feels perfect, but when Im alone I cant help but feel like she doesnt really feel the same way. I wonder if our relationship is one sided, or if Im being clingy, or if she doesnt really like me anymore and shes to nice to say and/or Im just too dumb to notice.
Anyone have some advice on how to calm that down?
My fear of being left and being hurt is changing the way I think and operate in my relationship. I just want to be loved. Not reminded of what makes me weak and unworthy. I
@Antoniette12 hey how have you been? Is it going okay right now or are you feeling the same way about it?
@shyPlane751hey thanks for asking. I'm sorry I'm just seeing this message. But to answer your question. We had some arguments, each one was worse than the last. We're currently on a break from the relationship but we're still remaining friends. Personally I'm okay with the circumstances I'm just trying to get to know myself better and focus on me right now. I'm looking to be more social and not always put my time and energy into a relationship
I am currently in a relationship with a guy for one year n few months. I feel like I'm being engulfed in the relationship n I love him way too much more than him because our personalities are very different , he's a very practical person with low emotional intelligence and I'm a very emotional human being , empathic n all. I don't feel appreciated in the relationship and deep down i know it's wrong for me n eating me away but I feel such an emotionally dependent ball of mess and it scares me to death, I find myself contemplating on what if I go through a breakup and am not able to deal with it because I'm extremely invested into this and I really find it very disgusting n irritating at the same time because I haven't been like this in my previous relationships, I have gone through several heartbreaks before n chose terrible partners but since I've been dealing with depression n anxiety for a few years now , it's very difficult at the moment and top it all , this is my first physically intimate relationship n I find myself thinking if I won't find another person with whom i can share the same amount of sexual connection n ease. Please help if anyone has gone through this similar kinda situation.
I'm currently on a break with my boyfriend. There is so much pain in the relationship I don't know if it's worth saving. We both want to be with each other but I'm thinking maybe we're not supposed to be with one another, because I have feelings for him it's hard for me to come to terms with that. But logically speaking it's the right thing to do. I've come to this decision all by myself because he doesn't like to speak about his feelings. He prefers to express his emotions by reflecting anger and being mean to his partner. So I actually don't know how he really feels. I'm just taking this time to figure out what I need to make me happy, and clearing my mind before I make a relationship grow whether it be with him or anyone else. I do have issues with being lonely though. I'm not the best at being social. Does anyone know a good way to start?
