Struggling with even the simplest tasks to terrifying level / Relationship stress and anxiety
I do not know if I chose the right thread, but I really need external help about my current mentak state and relationship. For about 3 years now I am struggling with productivity issues to the point I do not take showers or brush my teeth. For my whole life I struggled with anxiety (answering phones, talking to new people, having to talk to cashier, paying, having to talk to anyone that is not a friend - family included). But for the last to years it gotten so bad that I do not do my university tasks and attend classes because i have anxiety being in an online call ESPECIALLY with my parents in a room right beside me. I have a hars time doing ANYTHING when they're around besides be on my phone and maybe playing video games. I have anxiety even when I watch TV Show since I know they would be asking what am I watching/Why etc. Anyways, it gotten si bad to the point im not doing my regular routines. I cant seem to bring myself to do the simplest of tasks including brushing teeth/showering. I do not know how to bream the cycle. My closest friends just say that I am comfurtable in my own bubble and thats why its scary for me to do anything. And I really do not feel like that since i dont really have a good relationship with my parents since they are always fighting with eachother or me but they might be right since I am living under their roof careless about trying to afford my own stuff. It just feels like I have such a big weight on doing anything really while others do it like a routine. I will fail all of my classes if i continue like this (i do make myself do work but in the last possible moment) and all the talking with school workers i really try to make my mom do instead of me if its possible. All this also led to my boyfriend getting frustrated with me and even if Im not doing anything now I was really toxic 2 years ago and it left a mark on him. And I do not feel loved at all and he changed so much because of my torture and Im being so nice now but its just to late he doesnt have patience anymore, hot headed, and tends to be so cold when communicating and unable to express feelings... i also have huge problems with focus... its just a huge mess and i do not know where to start from... i cant keep living like this i am turning 21 and i did nothing and cant do anything and also i do not feel loved by the 1 and only person i gave my all and opened up
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Hey, the similarity is unbelievable, I literally went through this, I still didn't got out but I'm trying, start with doing simplest task and each time you don't want to, remind yourself you don't want to continue living like this, you don't want to feel this way, stuck and all, start with basic like going for a walk, self care and stuff, then later move on to bigger stuff, the mind and body aren't your friend right now, so basically when they say they don't want to brush teeth or anything, don't listen and just do it, when you'll start doing you'll get better
Thank you so much for reply. I'll try my best. I just remembered that action creates motivation and vice-versa. I think I just nees to start. Although I did and it doesnt last long. Its just that this time it went out for a whole year and I had enough of myself. Thats why I'm on this app now. Something just feels so fucking horrifying and tideous about doing anything. Literally anything. Im literally jelous of people who have routines and function like a normal person. Its really good to hear that Im not the only one too. Since its really embarassing to tell someone you didnt brush your teeth for a whole week because "you can't". I'll try my best. Thank you!
Hi, i am also suffering from anxiety beacuse of relationship problem . This is my first relationship , this is my first relationship , i am dating a guy since 1 and half year . 3 days back when i saw his instagram i saw some flirty chat on it and i was broken inside . I cried alot , when i asked him about this he denied and say i didn't chat with anyone . Now i can't focus on study, i didn't attend my online classes due to anxiety , i cant eat properly . I always try to being alone and there cry . Sometimes i think i have to move on but ......... i can't share these things with anyone , i can't sleep well beacuse of anxiety , i am here to get some help can you help me
Hey there! I'm sorry to hear this. Is your relationahip with your boyfriend okay in a manner that you are both communicating well? If it is I think the best thing ia always to really open up but not in a angry or sad way. Just tell him normally how you really feel and that you are hurt inside and that you would really like to know the truth. Its in our nature to be protective over the people we love so your reaction is not unnatural at all. I do not know what you actually saw (those flirty texts) or how much you saw but if you saw just a few messages it can be easily be out of context and your brain just made the worst case scenario. For example - I myself "flirty text" my friends when they send a picture but more of in an mocking those-who-right-that seriously way. If somebody saw that out of context or doesn't know me or my friends he could easily assume that I'm flirting with someone even tho I'm not and its just an inside joke. The best way to cure this is real non-dramatic talk with your boyfriend. And I really thing you should try your best to not make it dramatic just make it real ans tell him how you felt and what you tought. I really hope you sort things out with him. People can be really harsh and may not respond as relaxed and serious as you and I wish, but you know him better than anyone of us do. Healthy relationship is about communication and setting boundaries and respecting eachother kind of like as best friends too. Also I know how it feels to maybe KNOW u have to move on or not feel certain way but inside u still do. But thas actually the first step. If you aldeady KNOW what you dont want to feel but just cant thats already a step in a healing process. I dint like asking anyone here about their age but if you are very young - it does get better with time. Believe me. The most unconfident and anxious phase in our life is usually through teens and a bit later. There are exceptions like peiple with hard trauma or life-scaring situations of course, but its a general rule of thumb. Hope you sort things out with him and he reacts in the best way possible and helps you out! His words will mean much more than any words from us, and thats the truth. And update us, please!