am i in the wrong?
so everyday at home i try to dedicate 15 minutes to myself now and when anyone interrupts it i get really mad and i have stated this to them and they still do it now they dont let me lock my door so i put up a sign and their ignoring that to so i talk to my counselor and they asked what we talked about and im not telling them and they are getting mad who was in the wrong and what should i do?
Hello @shadowmoonking
My name is Gia, and I am an active listener on 7 Cups. That sounds very frustrating and annoying, especially as it has occurred multiple times and has escalated to the point where they don’t allow you to lock your door and ignore your signs. You seem very accommodating in telling your housemates what you are doing and placing signs. I’m sure this is even more upsetting when you are utilizing these 15 minutes to better yourself and focus on yourself. I would love to chat with you about this. Please feel free to message me whenever you are free and we can find a time that works for both of us. Best, Gia
@shadowmoonking
hello, this sounds so frustrating! It’s absolutely valid to have time to yourself, and to set those healthy boundaries with others to make sure you get that time. 15 minutes alone isn’t a very big ask, I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. Also, you don’t need to disclose anything you talk about with your counsellor, that’s confidential. I hope that the situation improves for you, they really need to respect your privacy and boundaries.
@shadowmoonking
i think it sounds like they're definitely in the wrong, I have kinda nosy parents who have acted similarly, and it really irritates me, they should learn to respect your privacy and boundaries...
@shadowmoonkingIt sounds like you’re facing a tough situation with your need for personal time and the interruptions from your family. To address this, start by having an open and honest conversation with them about why those 15 minutes are crucial for your mental well-being. Explain how uninterrupted time helps you manage your anxiety and ask for their support. If locking the door isn’t feasible, consider designating a specific area in your home where you can have that time without disturbances. Additionally, think about involving your counselor in the conversation, as they can offer strategies and support. It’s also important to practice self-compassion; it’s normal to feel frustrated in this situation, and establishing boundaries can take time and persistence.
@shadowmoonking
Hello, I think it is perfectly reasonable to ask for 15 minutes to yourself. It is a small amount of time. I also think it is reasonable to ask for privacy. I understand that when someone cares about you, they would want to know those things, but it is up to you to tell them.
@shadowmoonking
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with this. I can only imagine the impact that it has had on you. It sounds very stressful and frustrating to have an intrusive family that wants to know what is going on with you and a counselor. You deserve privacy in your room also. Having time alone in your room is very important and essential to you and your family should try to understand that. Your family should be more respectful to your privacy and maybe it might help if you gave your counselor permission to talk to them about your privacy. But I know that conversations with the counselor are confidential so you have privacy with your counselor. And what you are asking for with the 15 minutes to yourself sounds reasonable. It is up to you to decide if you want your counselor to talk and advocate for you to your family. I hope this is helpful.
As others have already said this before me, the disrespect of personal space can be infuriating sometimes, so you are in the right for that. Have you ever talked through how and why important personal space is for you?
I hope the situation has been solved already, take care!
Do you deserve to get you 15 minutes of peace your body needs rest your mind
@shadowmoonking
It seems you're counselor is confused, am I correct?
