i am scared of showing women that i desire them :(
I got better looking muscular, buff, and all, and more women desire me, but my anxiety is very high and my anger is very high too, i live constantly in my thoughts and i never talk to women or i dont really talk in real life, i stay most of the day in my house working on drawings or 3d blender stuff.
When a woman looks away from me or dont smile at me part of me thinks she hates me, even if she only saw me for 1 to 5 seconds, when i go to the gym and i say hi to the receptionist and if she does not says hi back i think she does not like me, or more like she dislikes me :( , i get super anxious around women, and i even afraid of my own desires of talking about them, or showing interest to women , when growing up till not so long ago, i got used to be considered disgusting by the opisite sex, it was more of my attitude of how I was watching them like a perv, and , many many years of this created an stigma over me, where i tend to hide most of myself inside me, besides i dont consider i have friends that i could see regularly in real life. outside the internet.
please help me out :(
@okeyyyy I wonder if you started out trying to be friends with a few women they would help you understand how to move forward. As a woman, I looked for a man who was caring and friendly, and that was more important than how he looked. If you tell someone you desire them too quickly, that can perhaps seem too strong. Taking things slow and not trying to have expectations of a romantic nature might be a way to gain confidence. Just suggestions - I am definitely not an expert!
@MidwesternCalmSeeker thanks for the tip, i usually dont talk to anyone in real life, i stop trying to talk to women too, i dont feel confortable about talking about romance either with women, i had been worried about trying to work too.
to be honest would be nice to start to have them as friends, but i get scared.
@okeyyyy I hope you find a way to connect with a few really cool women who can show you how to start feeling more comfortable!
@MidwesternCalmSeeker thanks that would be very nice. thanks so much for being so kind to me ^^ , today at the gym some girls ask me if i would continue using the squat bar, i told them the weight i will use and that we could share it, cause i dont mind waiting for the 2 girls to do in between. I was scared of them at first, but they seamed friendly enough and they thank me for sharing the squat bar with them. we were doing the same dead lift work out during that small time ^^. I like it when people talk to me, i feel more at ease ^^, i hope i would be able to conect with more people girls and guys and make friends. ^^
@okeyyyy my mistake, the word was not continue, it was to use the bar ^^ if i had finished using it ^^
@okeyyyy That is awesome! Sometimes those small steps make a difference. I hope you continue to feel more comfortable as you move forward. Friends first is always a great option. I consider my spouse to be my best friend. That's why we have lasted for 17 years.