scared all the time
i have lost everything in the last 4 years and i findout allot more has happened i feel so hopeless like ill never be happy again i try i love life but life is not making me happy i am happy with the children and my grandchild but not iwth my husband and thats why im so torn and unhappy hes done so much to add to my unhappiness so in return im angry and bitter and resent the hell out of him
@carefulApple6515
Firstly sending you a big hug - Happiness is the most important thing in life so I am really gald you are able to identify what makes you ahppy and what makes you unhappy :)
Have you tried talking to a close friend or someone about your issues with your husband? :)
You are doing a great job at being you, a mum and a grandma :) xx
@funnyCity3215 That is so kind of you to say! I have most of them tell me to leave him! I love him but hes hurt me so much i have a hard time not feeling angry and resentful towards him. He is trying and hes very understanding of why I feel the way i do about him. I just want to be happy in my own skin again.
I am so sorry you're struggling with these issues in your marriage @carefulApple6515. It sounds like you both love each other though. Would some joint counselling be an option? I wonder if some mediated, guided discussion of the problems between you, even if they are in the past, could lead to forgiveness and healing.
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@carefulApple6515 sounds like youre husband is tryng so not all is lost, if you are willling to make a change towards hapiness seems like you both need to sit down and talk, even with a conuselor. marriage is very complicated , specially since society teaches little girls that married life is a fairytale, the dissapointment is so much bigger when you discover that youre spouse is not a flawless human being.
women are sensitive, they often simply dont get that emotional fulfillment they have been hoping for, and when you have a family and children you dont always get the time ,just for you, to figure out what makes you happy. you summed youre life in a way that points out to me
that you never asked or discussed youre husband about the fact that you are unhappy , and he didnt think about it on his own and it made it worse. it matters to change things right now, because postponing or ignoring unhapiness is going to have consequences.