Could I please have some advice on how to cope with my social anxiety and self image?
I’ve always been a shy person, and never knew how to talk to people. I thought it wasn’t that bad, until about maybe 3 years ago. I cannot start or keep up a conversation with anyone, and it is really frustrating for both me, and others. My boyfriend (who is extremely kind and helpful), tries his best to help me to start to talk to him and others, but I always end up staying way too quiet in conversations and it makes me feel really really bad. I also have no fun hobbies or interests that I feel like I could talk about with others. Which is really frustrating for me, because while I have spent weeks, searching for some kind of hobby that I enjoy (even just a little bit), I cannot find anything. I am trying so hard to find common or basic conversation starters but all of them feel like that they are just not right, for the types of conversations, that I am in. I’m really afraid of losing my boyfriend and friends because of this, and the constant self hate that I have on top of this, is making me go insane! I used to be the really shy and quiet girl who was always smiling and was always happy, but now, I’m so sad all of the time that I can’t even fake a little smile every now and then, and cannot even attempt to talk to people in my school. All of this, has been leading me to have some extreme self-harm and suicidal thoughts, and they are so strong, I am so close to actually doing them. I don’t know what to do, and any bit of advice will help, so please, of anyone has anything that they could say to help me, please do!!!!!!! 🙏🙏🙏 And thank you so much, in advance!!!!!!!!!!
@communicativeField5469 sits beside you and hugs you tightly 💗 I think your shyness may stem from confidence. If that's the case then instead of hobbies, maybe working on that would be a good start🙂 perhaps a new fashion style of hair cut, will help you. Or try telling jokes, maybe if you get a laugh it will make you happier. I don't really know what's best to suggest😕 I hope you find your smile soon💗💗
@Tinywhisper11
Thank you so much, that is really helpful, I will try doing what you have suggested I do!!! I am ap grateful for your help, thank you 🫰☺️
@communicativeField5469 💗💗 let me know if I can do anything to help you💗💗
@Tinywhisper11
Thank you so so so much, you are fantastic, I think that I will be ok, I just needed to know that there was at least one person out there who seemed to care about me! You have given me the motivation to try and be better!!! Again, thank you so much!!! 🩷❤️💙💜
@communicativeField5469 💗💗
@Tinywhisper11
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Hello, i hope you are doing fine. I get how you are feeling. I have also struggled with shyness and extreme social anxiety. But will time, I have manged to improve those aspects and become a better listener and talker. If possible i could help you deal with this. While i cant give you advices, I would like to hear and be there for you.
I get how you feel frustration and anxiety on things like "am I saying it right?" "Should i say this?" And other questions like this you perhaps ask yourself during the time you try to socialize. And this is completely valid. Like you mentioned, you had previously been not this scared and afraid version of yourself. Do you remember what that time made it easier for you to communicate?
@Joemamascreams
Hi, thank you for being there for me!!! At the time, I was nearly more shy than I am now (lol), but before I was happier and found it easier to communicate as instead of sharing my own thoughts, opinions and feelings, I would just agree with whoever I was talking to, on whatever they were talking about, and would change my thoughts and opinions to match theres. I know that wasn’t great, but I always felt like I was saying the right thing, you know? But now, I have started to share my own thoughts, opinions and feeling, etc. and nearly always end up feeling bad about what I say, for some reason. I hope that I have managed to answer your question, if I’ve understood it wrong, please let me know, and sorry if I did understand it wrong. 🩷🩷🩷