Dating someone with anxiety
I think people should just know it involves this:
-them asking you the same question at least 10 times
-them saying sorry at least 3 times a day
-you promising them its okay
-ordering food for them
-making phone calls for them
-repeating the same directions 3 times, then just going with them
-texts as soon as you leave
-sweaty palms
-constant reassuring
-them constantly changing their mind
-checking to make sure something is done correctly over and over (ie writing an address/phone number)
-ALWAYS BEING EARLY
-NEVER BEING LATE
-?yes, its at 4:30?
-directions never being clear enough
-ANSWERING THE SAME QUESTION MULTIPLE TIMES
-THEM BEING NERVOUS FOR SEEMINGLY SIMPLE TASKS
Dating someone with anxiety disorder. His fear of being all by himself has pushed him to cheat on me countless of times. Whenever we are together, it's absolutely perfect; affectionate, romantic, cares genuinely about me, cooks and cleans and so good in bed! But as soon as I stepped out of the house or having to leave town for work, he would be on dating apps looking for people to talk to. For the past 3 months, I've barely left his side, so he has never been on any of the dating sites. And then, as soon as he stepped his foot back home for the summer break, he activated his tinder account. Although I am hurt, and possibility lying to myself by covering his disloyalty with this story, my baby is struggling with anxiety and he can't be alone.
Really sorry if this seems out of line but I feel like you deserve better than someone constantly cheating on you- for whatever reason they may have. Take care of yourself too x.
It depends on which kind of anxiety disorder I guess.
You're describing my husband .. He was diagnosed w/generalized anxiety about 5 years ago, but he never went back to that doctor and won't take medication. His medication is Miller Lite. He's a perfectionist, needs constant reassurance that I love him and will never leave, needs me w/him 24/7, and HATES being late! He is a wonderful person, but I wish he would stop being so stubborn and get help from a doctor b/c he is just a heart attack away .. all that beer and anxiety combined is not good.
I've always just thought that was normal behavior, but then I found out I had anxiety a few years back. Still amazes me how much I've been affected by it without realizing.
I haven't been to the dentist in years because I'm afraid of both making the phone call to set up the appointment, and getting all kinds of grief for not having gone in for a visit in years. One of my fillings fell out about a month ago and I still haven't gotten the courage to even make the call. Anxiety reallysucks.
I know it may sound silly to be afraid of these things, but ifyou're with someone with anxiety, offering to make a simple phone call or reply to an email for them can save them a panic attack.
I really hope you can get someone to make that dental appointment for you. Your health is important after all. If you're also anxious while at the dentist and you manage to get someone to sort out the appointment for you then maybe you can ask them to look around for dentist who particularly treat with people who are anxious with dental treatment.
One thing I found really helpful is that some practices have an online appointment system! So much easier making an appointment that way... Although they make call to confirm.
I just wish more people understood this and didn't just degrade someone and class them as 'needy/ dependent' in the belittling sense. Too many people are easy to get rid of their girlfriend or boyfriend for no good reason other than the fact that they seem to lack true understanding of anxiety. I'm really glad you wrote this post.
WhileI wouldn't say every single bullet point described myself I just couldn't help but laugh at this one: "yes, its at 4:30" because I asked if it was at 4:30pm three times today and I guess the fact that the idea is true but also that the timingis also accurate kinda hit the needle on the head with that one.
Luckily I've got social anxiety to keep me from continuouslyprodding to make sure of things.
