Social anxiety and dealing with very outgoing friends
Hi lovely people,
I have a friend I love dearly who is very popular and extroverted. They recently posted an article online that complained about introvert culture and socially anxious people being "special snowflakes." Since I love them, I brought it up with them and explained how I felt. However, I find myself still getting mad about it three weeks later, wondering if I should even be this person's friend anymore. I'm tempted to just delete their number or something. Somehow despite bringing the issue up, I really don't feel heard about how much it hurt me or how much highly outgoing extroverted people have hurt me and mistreated me in my life (which includes this person). I wonder if someone with a lot of friends and people who follow them around could ever really value or care about me. I don't want to be treated like someone who is kept around to make them popular. Any thoughts or hugs would be appreciated.
*sends giant hug across cyberspace* Your friend probably appreciates you a lot. Each person is different and special in their own way. If you still feel like your friend doesn't understand you and your anxiety then you could try to find subtle or more obvious ways of explaining them. For instance, if you're watching a movie and a person walks up to another person then you could maybe say something like, "omg I could never do that" or "wow she's so brave" or something like that. Hope this helps!! <3
thank you for the support! <3 <3 i actually sent them a blog i wrote.
https://www.anonyme.com/View/a95c0f3b-b328-4609-9aa9-de4dd34311bb
i asked them to read it and asked could we talk about it? now i just have to wait for a response. -__-
waiting sucks but i will try to listen to music and message some other friends I know already support me.
@skinicki I get how that must be hard. Lots of people don't really understand social anxiety and the struggles that come with it. From misunderstandings come assumptions, and from assumptions comes hurt. I think you did the right thing in writing that and asking your friend to read it. That's a brave thing to do, and no matter how he/she responds you can be proud of voicing your feelings.
@Cheeney Yes. Thank you!
thanks I am also wondering if others with social anxiety have a tendency to idolize people?
