Worry Without a Reason
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So, I started school about 3 weeks ago and everything was fine. Until last Wendesday. I wasen't feeling well and I was allowed to stay home because my mother thought I got sick from my sister and I need to feel well for a wedding over the weekend. The next morning, same thing. I throw up, but my dad sends me to school. I was fine the whole day.
Friday came and I had a football game to attend because I'm a part of the marching band. Again, my stomach is upset. I go to the bathroom twice. I ended up going home. On Saturday, I attended the wedding. I told my dad how nervous I was and then he yelled at me saying how this was my cousins special day and that there was already stress in the air. My stomach didn't hurt at all.
Now my stomach hurts hours before bedtime and in the morning due to worry. I can't eat a proper breakfast and if I do, I have a higher chance of throwing it up. And then I end up eating 2 lunches because I'm starving. I'm already trying the remedys of chewing gum to reduce stress, deep breathing, and keeping a rubber band on my wrist so I can snap it when I feel worried. But I need to know how to get rid of this. I've never felt like this in my life and I need to know how else to fix this. Help!
Hello, it's nice to meet you. I'm sorry that you've been going through so much stress, but I have some things I want you to do for me. First of all get rid of that rubber band, alternative methods of self-harm are just as harmful, hurting yourself will only become a habit and rubber bands can do damage.
Secondly I want you to stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be okay. It only adds fuel to the fire. Allow yourself to feel and allow yourself to have little breaks to worry. Do not bottle it up, you're entitled to your feelings even if your parents don't believe you are.
Thirdly I think it would be best for you to start talking about it. It's scientifically proven that talking about your emotions dramatically decreases depression, anxiety and stress. This is a judgement free zone and we aim to support and encourage your recovery.
And finally I do have some suggestions, these are from a collection of resources. Feel free to use any or none of these options.
Chewing gum - reduces anxiety
Holding breath - slows heart rate
Breathing exercises - distracts you and levels breathing and heart rate
Aroma Therapy - Clears Head, Calming
Herbal Tea - Clears Head, Calming, Improves Health
Sleep Well - Inconsistent sleep can have some serious consequences. Not only does it affect our physical health, but lack of sleep can also contribute to overall anxiety and stress.
Smile - Smiling and laughter reduces Anxiety and Depression as a whole
Eat right - Improves mental, physical and emotional state
Meditation/Yoga - meditation actually increases the amount of grey matter in the brain, essentially rewiring the body to stress less.
Create a vision board. - If the future seems big and scary, try changing the thoughts about what lies ahead. Sometimes the mere act of setting concrete goals can take the edge off anxiety about future unknowns.
Look at clouds and work your 'overactive imagination', and make up stories with the shapes you see in the clouds
I can relate to the anxiety after something is over. Distraction helps, also just reminding myself how it's over. And you mentioned some great ways to calm down overall
I am a worryer I worry a lot and stress out over things. I have test anxiety and so tests make me worried and a bunch of other stuff. I don't really have strategies to deal with stuff like this
I had the same problem for years. Every morning I'd wake up feeling nauseous, and it was terrible. The only thing that helped me was getting out of the situation that was making me so nervous. I quit my job, and now I'm at college, and I'm doing pretty well. I still get that feeling sometimes, but I try to control it with deep breathing and mindfulness meditation. It has also helped to talk to a counselor, so I'd recommend looking into that. And when you start feeling nervous, try to breathe, go outside, take a drink of water, and relax-- it'll be okay!