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anxiety has stopped me from living

User Profile: WorriedMagpie
WorriedMagpie June 20th, 2022

Im really trying my best to reach out on here but i dont feel like i deserve anybodies attention -

so once again we shout into the void -

swear I never used to be this bad - Im nearly 30, i dont really have any friends, i dont get out, i dont do stuff with people, I havnt since leaving uni when i was 21, not that I had much of a life back then either. i feel like its gotten in the way of so many life experiences - I keep saying to myself, this week/month/year will be better ill prioritise relationships and human contact but i cant, i feel like an annoying excuse of a human that never has anything interesting to say so would anyone talk to me, i dont blame them - wahey pity party i suck

I just wish there were people that understood, i dont inherently hate people, i dont not want to be around them I just never learnt how.

rant into the void over mx

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User Profile: coffeeandyoga
coffeeandyoga June 21st, 2022

@WorriedMagpie

Hello! I know how you feel 💜. I am 39 and although I am married with children, I don't have any friends either. My last in person friendship was over ten years ago. I have anxiety too, and social anxiety. And depression. It is just so hard, isn't it? Anyway, just replying to let you know that you are not alone💜

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User Profile: WorriedMagpie
WorriedMagpie OP June 21st, 2022

@coffeeandyoga

Thankyou so much for your words, yeah man it really is tough :( I just wish it would go away but it's just always there silently judging my every move 🙃

It is comforting to know I'm not the only one out there, makes sense we'd not bump into others often considering we don't leave the house 🙃😂

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User Profile: IceBlossom
IceBlossom June 29th, 2022

@WorriedMagpie

Hi WorriedMagpie - I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles with anxiety 😔 I don't have any specific advice but I just wanted to reach out to let you know that there are people that care about you here at 7Cups, and I personally am so glad you are here and are reaching out ❤️

Know that you are not alone with your feelings, and if you'd ever like to reach out to a Listener then feel free to DM me or any of the available listeners, we'd love to talk and help you through this time.


Sending lots of hugs!

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User Profile: WorriedMagpie
WorriedMagpie OP July 9th, 2022

@IceBlossom

Thankyou I really appreciate you taking the time to comment, it's starting to feel a little less lonely here 💚

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User Profile: Cindy777
Cindy777 July 8th, 2022

You do deserve attention! Perhaps you have a more pure and sweeter heart than so many you know...that's why you are a sensitive soul! You have suffered so much and deserve to give yourself credit! It's been hard .. And yes you deserve love...God made you ... You count! Be your first friend to start... And you will attract kind souls like yourself but be patient to yourself ♥️♥️♥️♥️

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User Profile: WorriedMagpie
WorriedMagpie OP July 9th, 2022

@Cindy777

Thankyou for all the really kind words, I'm slowly getting there, but I think you. Might be right with the being your own friend but that may take a while 😅

Thankyou 💚


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User Profile: fuzzyLemon
fuzzyLemon July 15th, 2022

@WorriedMagpie

I relate to your post so much. I have had social anxiety for nearly 10 years and have no friends whatsoever. My partner (who is wonderful) works all day and so sometimes it's 10 hours where I don't speak to another person.

I'm trying really hard to hold onto hope that I can get better but it's taking so long to feel like I'm making any progress.

I'm here to hopefully find some people who feel similarly and maybe we can help each other? Share in our success and cheer each other on?

Take care of yourself and hopefully see you around!

🍋

User Profile: generousZebra9670
generousZebra9670 August 14th, 2022

I understand and I feel the same. Even the same age range. It’s hard dealing with all of those feelings and connecting too. I’m here though if you want a friend.

User Profile: bluebellePeep
bluebellePeep September 6th, 2022

I suffer from social anxiety as well. I find it so daunting to go out and meet new people. Even though I actually am a very social person, I've discovered. It just needs to be the right people I think. My whole life I've been forcing myself into jobs and situations that actually are just not right for me. No wonder why I've always resorted to drinking or meds to help. I'm a highly sensitive person which is unfortunately why most modern life situations don't suit me. It's such a battle. I'm 34, single and worry that I'll be alone forever after the end of a long term relationship like 5 years ago! I just feel emotions more deeply than most so it takes me forever to get over things or start new things. Life is exceptionally hard for people with social anxiety/highly sensitive tendencies. If there was a drug for this, I would take it

User Profile: SaireJameDavid
SaireJameDavid December 1st, 2022

@WorriedMagpie Hi I have some gifts for you to help in battling anxiety, please see below:


Source: Controlling Social Phobia

https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/101998523?q=social+anxiety&p=doc

A Song about battling Anxieties

https://www.jw.org/en/library/music-songs/original-songs/each-day-has-its-own-anxieties/?content=video

How to cope Succesfully with Anxiety?

https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/watchtower-study-april-2022/How-to-Cope-Successfully-With-Anxiety/

If the topic you want is not listed above you can check more helpful article about anxiety here: https://www.jw.org/en/search/?q=anxiety

Stay safe always <3 I love you, we love you, we are here for you.

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Also some tips:

What makes you anxious?
Do the following statements describe how you feel at times?

“I’m constantly thinking: ‘What if . . . ?’ ‘What if we get in a car accident?’ ‘What if our plane goes down?’ I’m anxious about things that a more rational person wouldn’t worry so much about.”?—Charles.

“I feel anxious all the time, as though I were a hamster on a wheel running around but never getting anywhere. I’m working myself to death but not really accomplishing anything!”?—Anna.

“When people tell me that I’m fortunate that I’m still in school, I say to myself, ‘They have no idea how stressful school is!’”?—Daniel.

“I’m like a pressure cooker. I’m always worried about the next thing that will happen or the next thing I need to do.”?—Laura.

Fact of life: We live in what the Bible calls “critical times hard to deal with.” (2 Timothy 3:1) Because of that, anxiety can affect young people as much as it affects adults.

Is anxiety always bad?
The answer is no. In fact, the Bible says that it is right for people to be anxious to please the ones they love.?—1 Corinthians 7:?32-34; 2 Corinthians 11:28.

Also, let’s face it?—anxiety can be a powerful motivator. For example, suppose you will be taking a test at school next week. Anxiety might compel you to study this week?—and that might help you get a better grade!

A degree of anxiety can also alert you to danger. “You might feel anxious because you know that you’re taking a wrong course of action and that you need to make changes for your conscience to be at rest,” says a teenager named Serena.?—Compare James 5:14.

Fact of life: Anxiety can work for you?—as long as it moves you to the right kind of action.

But what if anxiety traps you in a maze of negative thinking?

A man helps a teenage boy find his way out of a maze
Anxiety might make you feel as if you were trapped in a maze, but someone with a different perspective can help you find a way out

Example: “My mind races when I think about the different ways a stressful situation could turn out,” says 19-year-old Richard. “I play the situation over and over in my mind to the point that it makes me very anxious.”

The Bible says that “a calm heart gives life to the body.” (Proverbs 14:30) On the other hand, anxiety can bring on a number of unpleasant physical symptoms, including headaches, dizziness, upset stomach, and heart palpitations.

What can you do if anxiety seems to be working against you rather than for you?

What you can do
Question the reasonableness of your anxiety. “Being concerned about your responsibilities is one thing; being overly anxious is another. It reminds me of the saying, Anxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”?—Katherine.

The Bible says: “Who of you by being anxious can add one cubit to his life span?”?—Matthew 6:27.

What this means: Unless anxiety leads you toward a solution, it will only add to your problem?—or become your problem.

Take things one day at a time. “Think it through. Will what you are anxious about matter tomorrow? in a month? in a year? in five years?”?—Anthony.

The Bible says: “Never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties. Each day has enough of its own troubles.”?—Matthew 6:34.

What this means: It makes little sense to take on tomorrow’s problems?—some of which may never even become a reality.

Learn to live with what you cannot change. “The best you can do is prepare for situations to the extent possible, but accept the fact that some situations are out of your control.”?—Robert.

The Bible says: “The swift do not always win the race, . . . nor do those with knowledge always have success, because time and unexpected events overtake them all.”?—Ecclesiastes 9:11.

What this means: Sometimes you cannot change your circumstances, but you can change the way you view them.

Put your situation in perspective. “I find that I have to focus on the big picture and not stress over the details. I have to choose my battles and channel my energy into taking care of priorities.”?—Alexis.

The Bible says: “Make sure of the more important things.”?—Philippians 1:?10.

What this means: People who put their anxieties in perspective are less likely to be overwhelmed by them.

Talk to someone. “When I was in the sixth grade, I would come home from school very anxious, dreading the next day. My mother and father would just listen to me as I expressed myself. It was so good to have them there. I could trust them and speak freely to them. It helped me to face the next day.”?—Marilyn.

The Bible says: “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word cheers it up.”?—Proverbs 12:25.

What this means: A parent or a friend might be able to give you practical suggestions on how to reduce your anxiety.

Pray. “Praying?—and doing so aloud so I can hear my voice?—helps me. It allows me to vocalize what I am anxious about instead of keeping it in my head. It also helps me to realize that Jehovah is greater than my anxiety.”?—Laura.

The Bible says: “Throw all your anxiety on [God], because he cares for you.”?—1 Peter 5:7.

What this means: Prayer is not a mental trick. It is real communication with Jehovah God, who promises: “Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you.”?—Isaiah 41:10.

When Anxiety Is Severe
Some young people suffer from chronic anxiety. For example, a teenager named Jenna says: “As a result of anxiety, I had a constant headache, I couldn’t focus, I would sleep for days or not sleep for days, I wouldn’t eat, or I would eat too much?—I was wired all the time. Very small problems seemed like mountains.”

When anxiety is prolonged or excessive, it might be good for you to get a medical checkup. That’s what Jenna did. “After receiving treatment, I can handle things better and I have control over my anxiety,” she says.

WHAT YOUR PEERS SAY
Carissa
“When I face anxiety, I pour out my heart to Jehovah in prayer. I can sleep well at night, knowing that the problem is in Jehovah’s hands?—and that’s the best place for me to place my life and my anxiety.”?—Carissa.

Samantha
“I always think to myself, ‘Why worry about things I can’t do anything about at the moment, or ever?’ I think about Jesus’ words at Matthew 6:27. This helps me to rely on Jehovah and listen to his advice.”?—Samantha.
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