Audhd
I'm wondering if there can be misunderstandings between people with autism and adhd (or when one or both parties have both)
I struggle with social cues and wont always directly communicate what I think. I have some friends who will forget to reach out which in turn makes me think they don't like talking to me or hanging out. Yet when we do hang out they seem to enjoy it i think?
How do you know if they dont really care versus a typical "out sight out of mind" adhd person who means no harm but literally forgets to reach out
And how do you know if someone pretends to like hanging out but they just dont want to hurt you by saying they wouldnt want to be friends anymore (hence the no texting)
I feel like ive broken a couple friendships over a stupid misunderstandings like this and im working on the communication part on my end but I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this or knows what to do with it. Quite frankly this type of thing feels like a f*<k!ng minefield to me.
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@LeannaLee
I kinda get what you're saying, I am not sure if I have autism(did all the online tests and got very high scores) but I 99.9% sure I have ADHD.
My life and friendships are weird, so take any advice from me with a grain of salt. I don't really text with any of my friends, not sure if we just aren't that close or if we see each other in real life enough that we don't, or if that's just our personalitys? I know I regularly forget people exist until I am going somewhere they might be so don't throw a friendship away just because people don't text you, or thatz what I would say.
I hope things turn out well for you! Sending big bear hugs!
I appreciate that
Thankyou ^^
@LeannaLee
Of course! Even if everything I said doesn't help you I can always send hugs! And those are universal! :3
4. Movement Breaks – Incorporate short bursts of physical activity to help with focus.
5. Fidget Tools – Use stress balls, fidget spinners, or doodling to improve concentration.
### For Autism:
1. Structured Routines – Keep a predictable schedule to reduce anxiety.
2. Sensory Management – Identify triggers (bright lights, noise) and use tools like noise-canceling headphones or sunglasses.
3. Clear Instructions – Ask for (or give yourself) direct, step-by-step guidance.
4. Safe Spaces – Have a quiet area to retreat to when overstimulated.
5. Social Scripts – Prepare phrases for conversations to reduce social stress.
### Combined Tips:
- Visual Schedules – Helps with both time management (ADHD) and predictability (autism).
- Body Doubling – Having someone nearby (even virtually) can improve task focus.
- Reward Systems – Small incentives for completing tasks can motivate action.
- Self-Compassion – Accept that some days will be harder, and that’s okay. 😊
