I feel really tense and stressed and I don't know what to do...
I don't know why I feel so tense and stressed... Maybe because I don't have routine that will help me go through life? I don't know... Maybe it's because I don't know what to do and everything is new to me? I don't understand... I'mnso tired if this... I have trouble sleeping and I don't know what to do with it... I tried drinking a warm cup if milk and it didn't work... I tried to watch ASMR and it worked a little bit, but I still wake up at night or really early and feel like I slept well but then I go to sleep again because I want to sleep after few minutes and sleep few hours and wake up at 7-8 or 9-10 am... I want to sleep normally and live a normal life... I'm tired if being so tense and stressed... I don't know what to do... Or maybe i feel like it because what i perceive as "normal"? Like... Maybe it's because I perceive "normal" as something that doesn't apply to my AuDHD? (Autism and ADHD). Like... I just forget all the time that I have the AuDHD? Maybe that's why? I don't know... I don't understand...
Hey @affectionateOwl4692 ~ It sounds like your nervous system is tense, and you are trying many things to get to a peaceful restful state. Trying to understand the body's queues can be quite challenging, especially for us on the spectrum. I hear you! Routines can help give us structure and it sounds like you are doing many things to try to regulate. It can get confusing sometimes- you are not alone! I hope you get some rest and continued support here and through other understanding helpful resources 💛 I'm new here, and am working on listening on a more regular basis- let us know when you need someone to listen. Take care
Thank you so much. I actually understanded why I felt so tense, and it's not because of routine or something else. And I slept well today! Yahoo. Thank you so much for support, I really appreciate that 💞🙏
Hi @affectionateOwl4692
I get so frustrated when I can't sleep or my sleep is disturbed - I act like a toddler, I really can't cope. So I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now.
I'm impressed you managed to try some things to soothe your nervous system and get back to sleep - I often don't get that far and just lay there angry and seething! Sorry they didn't help very much though.
It's taken me a long time to stop holding myself to neurotrypical standards and I still slip up now. I think your right that most of the general advice around sleep is based off a neurotypical existence and so reaching out to find neurodivergent experiences sounds like a great idea.
I'd like to share a resource I've recently found with you if that's ok? It's an app where you can get tips from the autistic community and also research papers summarised too. The company researches topics on autism that the autistic community actually want to know about and uses a autistic panel to review research methods etc. https://www.autistica.org.uk/get-involved/autistica-tips-hub
I hope you can get some rest soon,
✨ Joy ✨
Thank you so much! I actually found out what made me feel so tense and now I'm doing better! It wasn't routine or something else, no. But thank you so much for you kind words and support, I think I will visit the website that you gave me if I will need to. Thank you so much again, I really appreciate that 💞 🙏
