Family got into physical fight right before I start a new job
As if I’m not already drowning in anxiety from starting a very challenging new job, I find out my mom and brother went over to my dad’s house to return his trailer and my stepmom came outside and started an argument with my mom, which caused my brother to get involved, which then caused my dad to physically harm him. Thanks to my family for literally always traumatizing me with their emotional instability, addictions, and violence! Even after 30 years I had to curl up and hide due to the anxiety even though I am two hours away from them in my own home! I’ve sacrificed A LOT to get into a stable position when they refuse to do the same, and to this day they tell me I’m dramatic and instances like those are “normal”. Ya it’s so normal to go physically fight your family and have the neighbors be so afraid they call the cops. GTFOH. I wish I had someone to talk to 😞. I tried the crisis text line. They just said “you’re so brave for being vulnerable” ok 😑
@mxscn
If you are away from it ... you have a choice to cut their drama. My family also had fights and non stop drama ... so i leave their calls to voicemail ... never engaged in the drama story as each time the story was told drama was upped or new detail emerged.
You are grown have your own life and job ...act like an impartial stranger. .
do they stress when you have a bad day? nope because i bet they never listen to your issues or problems.... too busy with their crisis to pay attention... do not let them and drama to live rent free in your head.
Thank you very much for relating with your own story. It makes me feel less alone. It just hurts my soul that this happened.
@mxscn
I have met many with this in family it does help to know we are not alone ...
sadly to break the chain so it is not repeated you must distance yourself emotionally see it as clinical. my siblings have passed on drama addiction to their kids etc.