Being Single Sucks
Very random post but I’ve been feeling isolated and lonely due to being the only friend in the group not in a relationship. We have fun hanging out but I’m always left alone because everyone leaves to go to couple things. I feel like a part of me is also behind in life because I can’t find a partner. But I also have had some pretty bad experiences with dating too. Wondering if anyone reading this also feels similarly to me.
Hi. Whats up
Hi. Whats up
@intelligentPark5248 Hello
@quietSummer620 I think it’s better to be alone than in the wrong relationship.
Could it be about finding additional friendships, activities and things that you enjoy doing without your original group and not specifically narrowing it to finding a partner?
@pinkCherry1616
I agree but I also know that having a partner is something a lot of people want!
🙂 it’s absolutely natural to want it. I wanted to say it is just important to not wait with happiness till we meet the right person for that relationship.
@pinkCherry1616
That's actually really inspirational 😄!!
@quietSummer620
Omg I relate so much I was even pity dated 😞 and it's so hard to find another lesbian im wondering if it's hopeless at this point...
I was suppose to go on a pity date and got ghosted 😭 safe to say I will not be attempting to date for a little bit even though I desperately want a partner
@quietSummer620 hii
@Jyotik005 hello!
@quietSummer620
Being single only sucks if you let it. If you don’t let it suck it can actually be happy for you. Having a social life whether you’re talking about family, friends or a romantic relationship, it can be stressful and/or difficult but one of the factors of that is who are your family members, who are your friends and who you have a relationship with. If it’s someone who’s always like “Hey! You ready yet?!!! Hurry up! We gotta go in 2 minutes and can’t be late!” or something like that that’ll be stressful whereas if it’s someone who’s more understanding if you didn’t wanna go or couldn’t then it’ll be a healthier happy relationship/friendship.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling isolated and lonely. That’s been my life since I’ve been born and it’s one of the reasons why I’ve felt empty and alone and don’t have a sense of belonging in this world. It’s very difficult living that way. And the less support you have or if you have no support at all that makes it even more difficult.
It’s good that at least you and your friends have fun hanging out together. It’s better than nothing till things get better. The advice I’d give you is whether you’ve done it already or not, keep being consistently assertive and say something like “Hey guys I have fun hanging out with you but when you go to do a couple of things I feel left alone and I don’t wanna feel that way. Can I join you guys for the couple of things you do please??” and then just keep being patient and let things happen naturally.
As for the dating experiences I don’t believe in bad dating experiences bc whether the date itself was good or bad they have valua learning lessons for future dates or to keep your current relationship existing.
”Wondering if anyone reading this also feels similarly to me.”
Regarding feeling similarly to you I think I have already answered that question with this entire comment lol! Anyway I’m hopeful things will be better for you. I believe you’re capable of making it all better. If you ever wanna talk please reach out to me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@akunknown thank you 🫶🏼
@quietSummer620
You are most welcome
@akunknown
my life has been latching onto men to save me from my loneliness or my fear. I don’t know why but there’s something about having someone think about you or text to bring you food or bring you a cup of tea. Go on you a little bit, but it seems that my biggest problem in life is launching onto a guy and then suffering years of consequences as a result. I wish I didn’t feel I needed to have a partner in my life to be honest it’s just thought I really want emotional connection and I can’t the degree that I want that or the companionship that I want would only be from a boyfriend because no one else is gonna wanna see me as much as a boyfriend would, but yet here I am at 53 years old single again and honestly, I wish there was no such thing as sex and physical chemistry. I tried the dating apps and they’re just awful. It’s I caught myself a few times as I was swiping through it and I looked. I could feel my face and I had such a disgusting look on my face and then I thought to myself why am I doing this cause it makes me feel so yucky and then I realized I’m doing it because I’m trying to find a partner and then I said to myself, why are you trying to find a partner and then I answered myself because I don’t wanna be alone
And the thing is, I have kids they’re older and they do want to spend time with me, but sometimes I’m just want that person to take care of me and the thing is I wish that I didn’t but I do.
