Ghosting
Struggling with this
I’m in my mid 40s going through separation.. I met this beautiful, 31 year old doctor, she is hot, and super smart.. and she is going through divorce herself. Our first few meetings were intense, intimate and then I had to travel… I’m oceans away as I live in NA and she lives in the Middle East. We have been talking non stop for 6 weeks and we started developing feelings.. she told me she is falling for me, she is a resident doctor, and have tests coming up, and told me she is getting her *** together
Two weeks ago, communication started wining down… and 8 days ago, she sent me a message saying she is going through lots of crap but she is getting her *** together, and that she misses me.
After that I sent her couple of supporting messages, and nothing at all.. zip .. silence… she never responded … I’m torn.. I’m supposed to travel to her in 1 month, after her exams and I booked a place for us.. but I have a feeling that she maybe ghosting because of the intensity of her situation and the fact that she is falling for me.. what shall I do? Her last contact was 8 days ago, mine was 4 days.. will she come back??
@decisiveMapleCAN
Maybe
if very busy she will respond when things calm down..... it is hard when stressed to the max to stop and have a conversation to a parson you are interested in without venting.
Maybe she is getting cold feet with the idea in a short time you will visit and maybe she does not have her stuff together or it is different then she told you.... nothing brings on ghosting faster then being worried someone will catch a person in a half truth or deception.
I’m not sure tbh.. she could be of an avoidant personality.. wanting physicality, but no commitment due to all the issues and traumas from her life with marriage that is falling apart, a kid, exams, hospital doctors schedule is crazy… etc
I have no clue, and it’s been 12 days since her last message- last words were “I miss u”