How to handle toxic relationship
I had a friend when highschool which is in our friend group. She treats everyone nicely but not me. If i leave I'll be friendless(thought of that in past) We just graduated now, and had a fight. Now she's trying to boycott me with the group. They're my good friends..but she never treat them bad so
We quarreled over rescuing an injured pregnant stray cat. We rescued her together but she doesn't want to help afterthat. I'm caring the injure cat and kitten right now. I'm tired
Do I just leave this group? But I'll feel lonely, I don't have much friends and I haven't start college because I don't know what to study, I have no idea and lost rn. But at least I love cats. Half of my depression is caused by that friend.
@buluberie514 - Do you think this rift will blow over in time? Is your friend group staying around the rest of the summer? Will everyone go their separate ways in the fall?
We chat every day, the group is always active. But she just made another one and everyone continued there, they even plan to go out now. My good friend in the group told me. This all sounds childish but it hurts, we all known each other for years
@buluberie514
… and are you in that new group too and part of the plans for going out? (How many are you, altogether?)
I'm not in that group. We have seven, one is her boyfriend, they broke up before and I helped to get them back. The new group is she and her boyfriend started it. We usually talked in the group chat, only one keep in touch with me now. I just hated the feeling of being kind everytime but ended up getting kick out.
I'll just leave them I guess, maybe just talk to one by one sometimes. Still figuring out how to stop this depression, I'm happy when being with them(without her)
@buluberie514
You may have come to the best conclusion, with this couple being at the center of the new group: "leave them ... maybe just talk to one by one sometimes."
Regarding the depression—What you might be calling depression in relation to the loss of your old friend group, is what I call disappointment and grief.
In my travels, disappointment and grief are part of the course of living and it’s something you can get through, by sharing with compassionate, trusted, like-minded others. If you don’t feel comfortable sharing about these specific feelings with people in real life (and I wouldn’t share your grief with any of these friends) … then I would share here in this app, and maybe try to find a Volunteer Listener.
I have found that grief needs to move through us because it’s part of our human experience in some way. I’m not sure how exactly, I’ve just seen it work.
So give it a go, and maybe there might be other ideas that come along in your conversations.
Please stay connected ... We’re here for you!
Thank you for talking to me so much. (english is not my first language) I do actually mean that I'm depressed. But nobody cares in life, it all started with family problems. My parents shouldn't be together, but they're still living in the same roof quarreling everyday. I have no one to talk to in home, or outside. I don't talk much in reality. I just talk to my cat, I picked it from the streets. My family quarreled with me about my cats too, but without them I'll be more ill i guess
@buluberie514
You are very welcome and your english is fine!
If and when you feel okay to post another message …
You can try the General Support Forum and share about your decision to go to college … or you can also ask for support to deal with your family problems.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/
I am also new here, so there might be other people who can tell you where to post your questions.
I look forward to hearing from you!
