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I feel the most lonely when.....

User Profile: Laura
Laura January 17th, 2018

I feel the most lonely when.....

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User Profile: autumnrain22
autumnrain22 January 21st, 2018

When my feelings are invalidated, when I am told how I should feel, when my words aren't truly heard.

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User Profile: MollyCule
MollyCule January 24th, 2018

@autumnrain22 this. This. This. It

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User Profile: PassDaPuk1166
PassDaPuk1166 January 25th, 2018

When it's time to go to bed, and I know that I won't even get a kiss goodnight from my wife (and intimacy is out of the question).

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 12th, 2018

@PassDaPuk1166 Do you do it and she doesn't reciprocate?

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User Profile: PassDaPuk1166
PassDaPuk1166 March 12th, 2018

@softcottonpad Yes, I have tried, and I talked to her about how important it is. Nothing. Going on 4 months. I guess it only bothers me.

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 12th, 2018

@PassDaPuk1166 I know how demoralizing it is to tell someone about your needs and having them disregarded 😩 What are your options in this situation?

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User Profile: PassDaPuk1166
PassDaPuk1166 March 12th, 2018

@softcottonpad I believe in our wedding vows, and I am toughing it out. My mind races every night - I can't remember the last time I've been happy. If you've seen us together, you would never know there was anything wrong. I've been "keeping it together" for the kids' sake. I would never intentionally put my kids in a broken household situation. I just want to be physically loved by the person I am still very much in love with...

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 12th, 2018

@PassDaPuk1166 Is there a way you can make her jealous enough to make her look at you again and rediscover you, without things getting out of hand or too dramatic? I'm not sure this is a good idea since it might be risky, but if she'd know/hear that some else is into you, she might start to give you attention again. Of course, you know her better than I do and whether this would work with her or not. I've heard from my mom that it works...

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User Profile: PassDaPuk1166
PassDaPuk1166 March 13th, 2018

@softcottonpad It's not really my style. I am not a vengeful person. However, it would be a very nice change to have someone actually look like they are happy to see me. The life is being sucked out of me and my confidence level isn't too high at the moment. I'm a quiet person to begin with, so I do not think I could put myself in a situation where someone is interested because I am usually at home. I'm not even sure who I am anymore because I used to be really funny, romantic, and the first one there when someone needed help (I will always be the helper). My "friends" do not exist any more, so I don't go out. My kids are old enough to be home by themselves, but my wife won't even entertain the idea of a date night. SHe is violating the vows that we made to each other and that is almost as bad as cheating (which I know she wouldn't do). Anyway, I appreciate your idea - I never thought of that one.

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 14th, 2018

@PassDaPuk1166 I didn't mean you should do it as vengeance, but as...stimulus for your wife, I don't know how to put it. But yeah, I agree it's not everyone's style. I was never put in this situation personally and I can't tell if I'd do it or not, I think it would depend a lot, if I'd have other options (including breaking up) I don't think I would either, but I'd use it as a last resort, again, I think. I totally understand what you meanmeby by nonexistent friends and social life, I'm in the same boat and yes, it's basically impossible to apply that kind of suggestion in this case. I hope you will find the best and most suitable solution for your problem! Good luck!

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January 25th, 2018

@Laura i am scared

User Profile: Ilikeloneliness
Ilikeloneliness January 25th, 2018

When the person you thought you were closed to but they dont treat you in that way. Its when you sit alone in every afternoon after school :))

User Profile: RachelRaquelRinaRose
RachelRaquelRinaRose January 25th, 2018

The person who hurt me is smiling and laughing while I'm all alone.

User Profile: LittleAardwolf
LittleAardwolf March 8th, 2018

I feel lonely pretty much a nytime I have no one to talk to. AKA always

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 12th, 2018

@LittleAardwolf I feel the same...

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User Profile: LittleAardwolf
LittleAardwolf March 12th, 2018

@softcottonpad

Sorry to hear that, it sucks..

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User Profile: straightforwardHemlock5300
straightforwardHemlock5300 March 11th, 2018

When I get stuck in my head and worry.

User Profile: BB05
BB05 March 11th, 2018

I never know how to open up to others because I'm used to being shut down.

User Profile: Jaeteuk
Jaeteuk March 11th, 2018

I feel most lonely when I see pictures of friends getting married, or already have kids (when I am still single) crying

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User Profile: softcottonpad
softcottonpad March 12th, 2018

@Jaeteuk I know, same. Most of my primary and many of my secondary and tertiary class mates are already married or in serious relationships that have been lasting for years already, while I've been single since birth...

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User Profile: PassDaPuk1166
PassDaPuk1166 March 11th, 2018

... when I am with my wife of 18 years. It's killing me.