Weekly Check In 21st-27th
Hey all so i did day 1 and 2 of the ACT series on my last check in so heres day 3 and 4 next
Day 3: Fix-it Doesnt Work Goal: To understand the limitations of simply trying to fix your pain.
Its likely youve been using a fix-it mentality to find a solution for the cause of your suffering, but it may not be effective. Think about what actions you take to reduce, get rid of, or control your painful thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations. Consider all the things you do to keep yourself from feeling pain. Perhaps you try not to think about certain things, stuff down your emotions, or turn to unhealthy behaviors that you find comforting, such as smoking or self-harm.
Short vs. Long term Benefit Exercise:
Reflect on your fix-it tendencies for each item in your suffering inventory from Day 2[link]. How effective have you been in the short and long-term? In other words, how much immediate or long-term relief do you get from your tendency to escape, avoid, or get rid of the pain? Youll likely notice that although there is often some immediate benefit, the benefit is short-lived. For example, if Im afraid of failing, I might work extra hard to avoid this fear or pain. It helps for a little while, but then the fear resurfaces.
Bonus Activity:
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
Day 4: Drop the Rope Goal: To understand that accepting pain is more productive than fighting against pain.
The situation you are in may feel like being in a tug-of-war with a big, ugly monster. It seems as though you cant win. The harder you pull, the harder the monster pulls back. Sometimes it even may feel as if theres a bottomless pit between you and the monster and, if you lose, youll be pulled into the pit and be completely destroyed. So, you pull and pull. You try harder and harder. You look for different ways to pull, better ways to pull, stronger ways to pull. Suppose, however, that you have a completely different job to do. Perhaps its not your job to win this tug-of-war. Perhaps its your job to find a way to drop the rope.
Question for you:
Instead of fighting against our pain, what should we do
How are you doing this week?
Any goals Achieved? if so want to share them with us?
Any new goals?
Bonus Activity:
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
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This week when it comes to physical symptoms I've been struggling with dealing with the trigger of physical activity, and if it was worthwhile or not. Short term it does cause flareups and can be dangerous. Long term though it certain does help to increase my endurance and strength, but not if it means if I overdo it so much where I have to forgo times I have planned for the future.
I think I really did overdo. I've been quite exhausted all week, but I decided to suck it up and go yesterday. Part way through me and my trainer did have a discussion, I wasn't looking all that well and I was going at a slower pace. I increased the breaks in between. I think it was still more than ideal, I think if it wasn't a treatment day I would have woken up with an attack. I napped yesterday and slept for 11 hours last night. I think it will still be beneficial for the long term, but doing maybe 3/4 of what I did yesterday might have been better.
In general, this is something that is hard to really know the right answer. Some triggers are obviously best to avoid, especially if there is no gain to them. (ie. I see nothing to gain from smoking myself, sometimes it's necessary to be exposed to 3rd hand smoke to go to a medical appointment). Other things where there is a direct benefit from them like exercise are harder. I think it's best to avoid attacks - for me that's fairly black and white for most situations - although even with that there are medical ones where the trigger might be more important. How much fatigue is worth the long term benefit though? Like if I'm worn out for 3 days after this is it still worth it? It's hard and there have been times where I was pushing a little more and not realizing I was kind of just below my threshold for weeks until I had an attack and really looked back.
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Heyy affy bare with the delay took me a bit to type a response for this physical symptoms can be very hard to cope with and great points it may be wortyhwhile increasing endurance and strength but not if it can harm etc for sure
i agree with your post definetly avoid danfgerous triggers where possible those are a must