An unpleasant fact [cw: adult subject]
[cw: adult subject]
Disabilities &/or chronic ailments make a love life impossible.
Not a nice thing to say, but it's the truth. Sex requires a certain level of energy & a sense of physical well-being, among other prerequisites. (Quite a few would also add "emotional connection", which I would not dispute) Those of us with conditions that cripple us, that make us less than well, do not have those things. Most nights when I'm home, either I wait for sleep to come or go down a YT rabbit hole because those are the only realistic options. When your body is permanently dysfunctional, you don't feel the urge...or if you do you don't have the energy to pursue it. Also, most healthy people are hesitant--if not outright avoidant--of us chronic folk where romance is concerned. I can't really blame them, as if I were healthy & vital I wouldn't be chomping at the bit to get involved in someone else's incurable personal problems either...but it doesn't make the enforced monasticism any easier.
That is disabled/chronic folks' lot: solitude & cold nights. I would know.
@slowdecline48
I appreciate the honesty, the vulnerability and how difficult it must be to share something so personal. I appreciate seeing things from your perspective 💜💕
@Amanda84 At times like this, an Internet pseudonym is an advantage.
@slowdecline48
True 🥰
@slowdecline48 I feel this on a very personal level. I had just fallen in love with a lady, we'd been dating for just under 3 months, when she came over to my house the other week to break up with me. She told me I wasn't sexual enough for her, and that my health issues are just too much to deal with.
What's really upsetting to me is the fact that I was up-front about my issues from the very beginning, she seemed all-in. Told me I love you, and everything. We were making plans for the future. I thought we were doing the typical lesbian "UHaul" thing but I guess she was just love-bombing me.
@katslater Am sorry to hear/read this...it seems while you & I have different sexualities, we're still in the same boat.
Just one question: what is the "typical lesbian Uhaul thing"? Is it normal for sapphic couples to move somewhere else before settling down or...?
@slowdecline48 I appreciate this level of vulnerability. Most people, including myself, have trouble being this transparent. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
@breanac19 I didn't think the post was all that important, but okay, if it means that much to ya...
For me it was one of those days where the truth hits you in the face. I felt like it needed to be shared, so that other members here won't go on flights of fancy about something it is unlikely to occur.
...it is not something I like to contemplate.
I feel this. With my current partner we were very active and then after covid and a bunch of schedules changing my energy just disappeared. It's definitely placed a strain on our relationship, especially since they have some insecurities that I have to work extra on in order to make compliments and desire feel genuine.
