Missed Doses/Relationship Stress
So, I have epilepsy. I have to take medications twice a day. When I forget a dose, sometimes that triggers seizures, auras usually, but sometimes more. Here's the thing, sometimes I miss doses. Like once or twice every few months I might miss a dose, but sometimes I'll go longer.
My husband gets really upset at me when I miss a dose. I understand his concern for me. I feel controlled when he makes such a big deal out of it though. It's something to take seriously, but I don't see it as something we, especially him, should worry about after what's done is done. I should move forward, and just focus on doing better and being more consistent. I am human, and I feel like most people miss doses once in a while by mistake. But he just doesn't see it that way. He gets so upset it becomes an ordeal. I do everything I can to validate how he feels, and it still doesn't work. He pushes the point further of how this is a mistake that shouldn't happen. He expects near perfection. I end up feeling way more stressed when I should be taking it easy, because he gets so upset that I'm basically spending my time and energy finding a way to help him relax until I can take whatever my next dose is.
Idk if he's controlling or just concerned. But I missed a dose this morning and didn't want him to "catch" me taking it late, because I knew it was going to upset him/freak him out. I feel like if I'm able to move on with my day, he should too, but maybe that's not fair to him.
Have you ever had a discussion about it when you haven't missed a dose? Sometimes having the discussion when the emotions aren't as high can work better.
My guess is it is coming out of a place of concern, but him getting so upset towards you isn't going to help. I think it is hard for our partners when we're not well and in some instances they have even less control than we do.
I'm actually really good at not forgetting to take my medications, although I am moreso the type to start at them when they are right in front of me - ie. did I already swallow that pill or not? This week though I totally slept through a dose. Typically if I fall asleep early I wake up at some point and drag myself up to take it. This wasn't a set my phone down and nap situation though, I woke up in the morning with my phone in the bed. My husband was upset, but we're past the point where he was upset at me and this is longer lasting stuff anyway that a missed dose was unlikely to create a problem.
I think that's a great idea to have a discussion about it when both of you are in a good mood. Is he griefing because your sick and doesn't know how to handle it?