I was doing so much better until he said that
I've dealt with EDs in the past but the last few years I've been focusing on my health over my weight. After getting married five years ago I gained 30 lbs and lost over 10. My husband has expressed he wanted me to be more physically fit but he used to say it was for my health. I currently weigh 177lbs.
Well, he decided last week that he's leaving me. The fight started because he did something very inconsiderate and mean but refused to talk about it, let alone apologize. When I asked why he was leaving he said he "deserves to be with someone skinny" and he "never gets what he wants". Well, he's been convincing me to let go of my wants and needs to prioritize his for years so that's not true.
I've lost 5lbs in the last 5 days since that conversation. I'm not trying to but every time I eat I hear his voice in my head. This man has completely broken me, taken everything he could get from me, and now he's discarding me like trash. My family, his family, and everyone else who knows is shocked and angry with him.
I was doing so much better and now I feel like I'm going to have to start the Ed healing process over again.
Oh and I forgot to mention that I recently confided in him that I've struggled with EDs in the past and he accused me of lying about it. He couldn't just leave me, he had to try his best to destroy me on the way out
@discreetJet9705
His actions say more about him then it does you... he wants to hurt your feelings ... he does not sound like he is even listening to you now. His unhappiness or dissatisfaction with the marriage is NOT about you and weight at all. Even when you prioritized his wants over yours it was not enough....
When a person is really ready to go ...IMO often they pick something small to blame it on if they cannot explain why they feel disconnected They become rude and mean to ensure they won't back out of the huge decision to leave. Was the relationship working in other areas? Even if family is surprised or shocked by his actions... most again IMO want things to stay the same.
I can see you were somehow blind sided by this but it does not sound like you were really happy either. It is a lot to go through and i am sure you will have many emotions and that can trigger any addiction or stress related situations. Now is time for you to make sure you do self care.