Looking for support after dieting / maintaining, issues with coach
Hi! I lost a lot of weight- my apologies if that triggers anyone.
I’m trying to keep it off and I am working with an emotional eating coach on the behaviors surrounding eating and food. I like him a lot and he’s helping me but he recently shared part of my check in without asking me online / copy/ paste and I have felt triggered. We’re trying to work past it and I like him a lot but some trust has been shaken and he’s also not online a lot so at times I feel let down.
I’m debating trying to find a therapist or a different coach but I feel comfortable with him and like him, but I’m not getting the support that I need.
I have been struggling with some restricting thoughts after overeating.
Many thanks
@AmyGraceAAB
It is hard to rebuild trust. if he shared something was it in a way you were identified or in a way he was using part of your story as an example without your name etc? Someone once shared a bit of my experience i was angry but in end it was to help another and i saw that.
A therapist or counselor / coach is hard to fins someone you like and also trust depending on what they shared can you work past this?
@toughTiger6481
Thank you. He copied and pasted part of my check in without using my name onto an *** story to highlight client wins. He did this with other clients too but I think there was a misunderstanding because I thought I selected a box on a form asking him to check with me first and he thought that I said I said it was okay to do. It was a misunderstanding. Either way, I feel like trust has been betrayed and I am trying to work past it, but at times it’s very challenging because other coaches have betrayed my trust also. We had a good conversation and he apologized but I just feel some hesitation there and it’s sad because I really like him a lot and he helps me. I thought we had a good relationship but he’s not online much and it leaves me at times to feel without support, lonely, depressed or being too much and then I realize I am leaning on him too much.
I’m honestly struggling a lot. I was recently injured in a car accident and at times I am in a tremendous amount of pain.
I have been struggling with depression and overeating but also restricting.
@AmyGraceAAB
I also am an emotional eater and it is a real struggle. I am glad you found someone to help. I have not had that i have to find things to keep busy so i will not snack etc.
I think he did not mean to hurt your trust a simple misunderstanding. I often think forms where you click yes or no people do not always recheck before making a choice to use content. despite the miscommunication on post i hope your bit of story helped someone the it would be worth it
@toughTiger6481
Thank you. I’m sorry that you also struggle with emotional eating. It can be challenging. I think he is helpful and I like him a lot.
Emotional eating can be very challenging for me, what do you struggle with the most? Some of the things that he and I are talking about are thinking about what I want in the moment vs what I want long term, and using some coping skills like listening to music, reading, etc because I eat when stressed or bored.
@AmyGraceAAB
boredom is a big trigger and being angry or upset with partner. it is almost like if eating i will not say something i may regret. i lost weight then emotional eating started again started to gain and then tried to restrict instead of dealing with WHY i was mindlessly eating.