Father that left at birth now wants to meet up

Hey I was on here last year when I was going through a really tough breakup and was amazed at how beautiful this community was and how it helped me cope. My father messaged my mother one day after Father’s Day. He doesn’t have my number so he asked her how I am. He always does this. Instead of asking for my number and reaching out to me… Backstory: My father left us when I was 1 year old back in 2002. Since then I’ve probably seen him a handful of times over the years. He used to show up suddenly after a couple of years. My brother was ten when he left. Last time I saw him was probably around 9 years ago. Haven’t talked to him since. Not like he tried to reach out to me tho. My brother has been in contact with him for more than a year now (I’m not close with my brother so I don’t know much about it) I can’t get it tho. So I gave my father my number. So that he couldn’t use the excuse he doesn’t have my number which is why he doesn’t text. He lived literally 20 minutes away and never gave a damn about it. This I didn’t know by the way since I thought he’s been back in turkey (a different country) where he also lives and has another family. As u can tell I’ve always been upset. I started not to think of it tho. I’ve been waiting for a long time to say my piece to him. So I texted with him and the things he said as if he still has the right to call himself my father… didn’t even apologize. He genuinely thinks he tried super hard by asking my brother who barely knows me how I am. Maybe to not feel guilty? Lol He’ll be in the country until the end of June and asked to meet. I don’t know what to do. I’m so overwhelmed by that text message conversation. I want to be strong and face him and show that I don’t need him. Show that I made an effort and gave him a chance so later on I won’t have to feel guilty for not trying. But I’m scared Anyone have experience with this? I can’t ask anyone else for help. Please. Thanks <3