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Being back home
by Memee4life
Last post
 Monday
...See more I was back home for the last 6-7 months and I just arrived back at my legal residence. The last few days with packing my car saying goodbye to my parents and one last trip to my uncle has been tough. I have to get back to my life with decreased running and caring for others. It’s 1:11 pm and I’m sitting down looking at the bags that need to be put away. My mom and I both said it felt weird with me leaving and me not going to be around. They all are doing well. My sister is my parents medical proxy and POA so she will keep up on that. My uncle knows I’m only a call away. It’s nice to have reliable WiFi again.
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A two-faced person
by funnyCircle6483
Last post
 Sunday
...See more The person whose parents smeared, blackmailed me an my mom for years and also beat her on my birthday when I was still a child (and after that blaming and smearing her even more, convincing people she's crazy, so they don't believe when shes gonna say what they did to her) is talking today about animals abuse and questions "Don't you ("cruel" or similar word) people are afraid or karma for leaving these beautiful creatures like this?". Some people answer that it's unnecessary to call everyone like that, like cruel, humiliating, and they respond: "If you don't like my post, you don't have to answer".. At the end of all that they add: "Thank you all for your bad comments too". The only reaction I wanted to add to this post is: "Hmm, look who's talking". But of course I didn't. Don't get me wrong, the topic is very important. But when I see it from a person whose background I do know, that's disgusting
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Unfortunate relationships wit my 2 adult children
by humorousTiger9410
Last post
 June 23rd
...See more I have a 45 year old son and a 44 year ld daughter-I am 66 years old-female. I never ever intended situation to turn out as it did. Growing up at first as I phrase it I had a mother but once my step father entered the scene it was like I lost the mother I knew her to be. She never abused me but she became extremerly over protective and wanted me wit her at all times. I guess her knowing my step father was abusing me yet she never stood up for me which again I guess it was due to her own abuse she received by her dad growing up. However once my ex entered the picture she took every step to stand up on my behalf wit him Due to my own abuse although my daughter and I were close I unfortunatly became the abuser to my son which caused us to become estranged but lately many years later we are communicating again via text and calls yet he wont visit and I cant wit him as he wont give me his address. To move forward in 2007 my daughter moved in wit a woman her partner. The woman is very abusive and controlling wit pieces in her of being narcissi. She looks for everything to go her way. I visit every so often as I wanna see my daughter and granddaughter and to be frank I dont trust the woman around my daughter and granddaughter she has stolen and broken stuff of my daughters dat both she and I bought for her. My daughter no longer has love for her and going by what the girl said to me she too feels the same way yet when my daughter tried to leave twice she did her all to stop it from happening. She has criticized our entire family which has made my daughter and I argues wit her. She has gone out to people to lie and make my family look bad.  My son when I told him he asked why does my daughter crash wit her and I told him she is doing what many do when abused-I know I sure did it I kept going back til I got strangled and left. Here I almost lost my life befoah I went and left. My daughter is aware I worry bout her but she has argued wit me wit in the past year and told me several times she didnt Wanna me here in the home which hurts tremendously. It almost feels like she literally hates me which I did reveal to her how I felt. She use to invite me to go places wit her-not all the time but occasionally and now not only will she no longer invite me but wont even come in the room I am at to Chat, say hello or to check up on me as I have epilepsy. I love her deeply and literally would give up my life to save her from being harmed as I would my granddaughters( I have 3-2 are my sons)I never wanna know either of them got hurt. The girl made very serious accusations against my daughter and I and despite my daughter paying her part of the rent not only is the girl behind by 6 months but has called the police on my daughter a few times as well as one time she called on me and tried getting landlord to make me leave. The girl has revealed both to my daughter, granddaughter who is 10 years old as well as someone they know out in the town She revealed she doesnt Wanna me here which I tend to feel the girl has been pressuring my daughter to get rid of me and I know for fact she spoke to my granddaughter as I over heard the conversation. Both my daughter and I did call protective services but they never showed up but instead asked me to take charge to make sure my granddaughter was ok so I have been wit them now for a little over a year. My health isnt too great and has caused me not to see my doctors for awhile as I am unable to get to them but I fear the girl will do somethin’ serious to my daughter and grand and both my daughter and I tend to get this vibe the girl is doing what she can to take my granddaughter away from my daughter. She rarely allows my daughter to be the parent-she takes over and my daughter has many times complained how she lost my granddaughters earlier years due to not being able to exercise being the parent. I have suggested as well as my daughter suggested for the girl to get help as its seems obvious she has a mental illness combined wit health issues and occasionally drinks. She doesnt drink as often as she once did but when she does her behavior changes a lot yet it isnt a lot she drinks. The minute she puts it to her mouth she starts up. I would like for my daughter and I to find a place to live together but wit all thats happened she wants to live only wit her daughter. So between this situation and another situation I wrote in another thread/community its been a lot on my shoulders.
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Considering going no-contact with my family
by neatKite8306
Last post
 June 20th
...See more I’m really considering going no contact with my family and trying to decide if it’s the right step. There’s been a long pattern of my boundaries not being respected, especially around politics, religion, and mental health. I’ve asked multiple times for those topics to be off-limits just while I'm around, but they still come up regularly. These conversations often include racist/sexist or inflammatory comments, and I end up either staying silent, leaving the room, or disengaging. They know how I feel, but it doesn't feel right to start an argument at my parents' house. They also consistently dismiss or minimize my mental health. The lack of understanding (or even trying to understand) has taken a real toll over time. Even when I’ve tried to communicate how much that impacts me, it hasn’t really changed. At this point, all contact mostly leaves me emotionally drained and anxious, and I’ve started avoiding it or wishing for more distance. One example that stands out is a family conflict where I was the only one defending a sibling against our cousins. My concerns were ignored, the situation escalated, and I ended up receiving such hateful comments without any real apology or support from my family. This dynamic where I’m only heard or respected if I fully align with them has repeated over the last few years in different forms. So basically, I'm trying to decide if I should go no contact with my parents and my siblings. I have five siblings, and some are more like my parents than others. I'd appreciate any suggestions, advice, or whatever about this, even if you think I'm overreacting. For those who’ve gone no contact, what made it clear for you that it was time? How did you do it? Just randomly stop talking? Did you let them know first?
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Do Deaf People Have Deaf Children?
by sociableKiwi4537
Last post
 June 19th
...See more Not necessarily. In fact, it’s actually rare for deaf parents to have deaf children. Hearing parents, on the other hand, are more likely to have deaf children. Statistics show that the chances of deaf parents having deaf children are around 10%, while the chances for hearing parents having deaf children are around 90%. A hearing child whose parents are deaf is considered a CODA [https://www.alldeaf.com/coda/]. They grow up being bilingual and are fluent in spoken language, and typically fluent in sign language as well. Because of this, CODAs can naturally act as informal sign language interpreters for their deaf parents in various settings, such as parent-teacher meetings and doctor’s appointments. They also share a cultural connection with the Deaf community.
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Difficult conversations
by DavidT1914
Last post
 June 14th
...See more How do you deal with difficult conversations at home without choking up. It can be hard to express emotions in a sensitive space like with family. What helps you? You can message me if you feel like youd like to develop upon it
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How to Support Someone with Impaired Thermoregulation
by GnomedBinary
Last post
 June 11th
...See more I thought I'd make this thread because there's not too much info on this condition or how to manage it. I unfortunately have to live with this condition daily - so this "guide" is for caretakers who have clients who have it as well. There is unfortunately not enough research to diagnose this condition, impaired thermoregulation isn't always a result of heart or thyroid issues. Certain medications can contribute to symptoms but might not be the direct cause. Everyone experiences this condition differently and will have different tolerances, I am in no way suggesting you use me as a baseline - but this insight could help with supporting others with the same condition. Misconceptions * Impaired thermoregulation is NOT always a result of being overweight, but it can be a contributing factor - don't always assume it is. * Impaired thermoregulation is NOT always caused by thyroid or heart conditions, but can be triggered by existing ones. * Impaired thermoregulation DOES contribute to lack of exercise motivation - heavy workouts, chores or other activities are more difficult as a result of the body not being able to maintain a consistent core temperature. * Impaired thermoregulation CAN be managed to decrease symptoms but not neutralize them. Risks * Dehydration - Individuals are more prone to dehydration and should be drinking more than the recommended water intake. * Heatstroke - individuals with this condition are more likely to experience heatstroke or similar symptoms, even in warm climates. * Hypothermia - Individuals with this condition are more likely to become hypothermic in cold environments and should dress warm, however layers should be easily removable to prevent overheat. * Regulation Failure - A situation where the body is experiencing symptoms of the mentioned above and becomes confused. The body will feel as if it is experiencing both hot and cold temperatures simultaneously regardless of actual recorded body temperature. * Sweating - This is a common side-effect of this condition and can cause rapid dehydration. Supports * Never try to cool down/warm up someone with this condition yourself, episodes often provide sensory overload and overstimulation can make things worse. * Remind people with this condition to stay hydrated. (Sometimes people forget) * Take note of their temperature tolerances, room temperature and weather. Outdoor spaces should always have access to shade, if none is available - limit time spent outdoors if the weather becomes intolerant. * Plan activities or games that can be done indoors, people with this condition will likely be introverts and won't want to go outside often. (But should be encouraged to, but not forced) * Never adjust climate controls/thermostat without asking, sudden temperature changes can trigger symptoms. Obviously take all of this with a grain of salt, I'm not a doctor and sometimes I'm wrong. But hopefully this helps someone better understand this condition.
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I resent my mother
by drzombienoodles
Last post
 June 6th
...See more This is going to be a long thread anf most of it is just me ranting so I don’t totally expect anyone to read all of it. Every time my mother visits me, I get so irritated and snappy. She’s been noticing and we always fight ahd she won’t visit now because of it. It’s bad to say but I don’t really want her to visit. I get so territorial and *** when she’s in my space. I don’t realize how snappy I am until she points out what I’ve said and then I get it. But honestly, I have so much pent up anger towards for so many reasons. In a simplified sense, shes a professional victim. I’m never allowed to be irritated with ger about anything even when she says totally outrageous and mean things. When I call her out on it, she pulls the victim card again sges also alwats needs attention on her. If I’m having a conversation with someone about a topic she doesn’t know, she’ll change it and interrupt suddenly so the attention is on her. Point is, I have a lot of pent up rage over the year for her. So because of that, I snap all the time over the small things. The reasons above are not the only reason I get snappy. There are a ton but I can’t talk to her about days every time I do, she says I’m over sensitive and just a ***. I need to learn to accept the fact that she can’t change. I need to stop trying to reason with because I have for years and it’s always failed. I need to learn to accept how she is and make peace with it and stop letting it get to ke. But I don’t know how. I don’t know how to just let her attitude go and stop being so frustrated with her. My entire family had the same issue ahd my sisters made peace with her behavior. I just haven't yet.
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Family figures or parent figures
by berrycheesecake90
Last post
 June 4th
...See more Has anyone found these? Im strugglign horribly and all alone and i still have some small hope for a family. But has anyone found them? And how and how to safely find it. I dont need another self help crap i need something different.
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Family by blood but not from feeling
by brightLake5661
Last post
 June 3rd
...See more Some pain doesn’t show on the outside, but it stays in the heart. In families, sibling jokes may seem normal, but sometimes they hurt when repeated again and again. You try to laugh, but inside it still feels heavy. When you speak up, you hear “It’s just a joke,” so you stay quiet and smile outside. The truth is, words from strangers don’t hurt as much… but words from your own family stay deep, because they are supposed to make you feel safe—not broken. This is all waht I experience in my life other say don't overact but tahts something taht hurt I cry alone my friends teacher outsider see smile on my face but that not real there is pain I carry but even my family can't understand
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Restoration
by sonnieeee
Last post
 June 2nd
...See more I got into a really bad family argument on Saturday, those relationships are fine but the relationship with the person who is supposed to be my significant other is not. I was so angry, I said a lot of bad words and mean things to him that I feel bad about, but some of it needed to be said because I genuinely don't feel like he treats me fairly. I've been praying on things, and today is Wednesday. I did apologize for my nasty words, but I don't feel bad for the message because nobody gets to leech my energy and then go be with other people, meanwhile, I'm home minding my business not doing a single thing wrong. So, I feel good for getting things off of my chest, but I feel bad that it had to get that ugly. I do feel like my strength is being restored, feeling as weak as I did when I got sick wasn't fun. I was so weak because I had so much on my heart and a lot of stress, stress management is key and apart of that is not carrying a lot of negativity and working on my heart so things aren't a burden. Not proud of how I did it, but I'm proud it happened so I can take better care of myself, physically.
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On continuing to ignore family
by sonnieeee
Last post
 June 2nd
...See more So lately, I have been rejecting a lot of "family" time because I don't like the drama and don't have the emotional capacity to deal with everything. I'm not trying to come off as bitter or anything, but my love life is not the best. My boyfriend is in a depression right now trying to avoid prison and focusing on managing his finances better so he can remain free but his family is making him feel down. My mom seems to have this view that "everything is perfect" but maybe it is to her but it isn't to me. Being with a partner who is dealing with their mental health while also battling your own is tough. My sisters are having children, I'm the only female that hasn't and I keep getting asked questions about when I am, but the reality is that I don't feel comfortable doing so until I have enough money because right now I'm living check to check and my boyfriend isn't in the financial position to take care of me and his child like that. I asked him about having a child next year and he said that wouldn't be bad, but I don't want to make a decision because it's what others are doing - I really want to make sure I'm in the headspace.  I really been avoiding a lot of family things because my siblings annoy me. Their happiness is almost as if I should be happy too and it's simply not the case. Again, I probably sound bitter, but right now in my life my focus isn't on a child - it's on getting through school so my boyfriend and I can be comfortable because right now we aren't. I really have been avoiding family gatherings - like last weekend my step sister had a baby shower and I didn't go. I don't know if my mom went or not but I'm tired of her too. My mom doesn't show up for me but she does everything for her husband and her marriage. She made a comment stating that she wasn't coming to visit me but she was going to be with my grandfather when she comes to my state - very hurtful seeing as though I moved and you still haven't came by to see my place.  Overall, I'm really just venting because I need to get things off of my chest and this is an emotion I deal with often - not trying to come across as bitter. I may just be bitter, but at this point if I am I really don't care because I have so much on my plate and I have to do things according to what is just and responsibly. 

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