My mother is smothering me
Im a student and I still live with my mom for the time being. Im an adult with a job but she refuses to let me go out wearing a tank top on even if it covers, she constantly pushes aside my feelings, and she degrades me often with snide remarks. The other day she told me that when she looks at me she's looking into a mirror. I know for a fact my mother hates herself. Just sucks that im so much like her that she hates me
Maybe shes afraid youll end up going through whatever she went through or making whatever bad decision she did around your age but the thing is all parents want to protect there kids,children, temnagers, grown up child they gave birth to. Which is normal. But also your growing up, your no longer a child im assuming your a teenager maybe a older than 18 by now? Well if you are older than 18 your an adult. But stilll living under your parents rules so youd have to abide by some rules till you can be stable enough to move on your own.
Sorry i read your post again, and i see for the time being your living there. Which you kinda have to thread lightly around her i guess. If i were you id show your mom im a really responsible, hardworking person. I get all my homework done and do my job at the same time. If she can start to see im not like other people they good if not im sorry but im the adult here i can make my own decisions. Which you are the adult. You dont need anyone permission to do anything if thats whats on your conscience. Your decision and actions are your own and you take responsibility for what comes of it🙂
You're nothing like her. She is projecting. It feels awful, but it's OK to tell her that.
Living at home while in school is hard, but it's often a necessity. If you can, try to work with a therapist on asserting boundaries. You can even change into a tank top when you get to your destination. There is a huge difference between privacy and secrecy.