Uncle

TL DR: my uncle is being very toxic and for my own mental health and sanity I’m going to cut him off. I need support, please send kind words. It’ll be hard because I still care about him so much.

I thought me and my uncle had been passed this. He’ll go into these weird fits where if I don’t immediately bring him something he wants (a banana, soda, pain reliever, etc) then he’ll spam text/call me or stop talking to me all together. I told him I hate that. I told him I can’t drop everything I’m doing to help him. He’s an adult he should be taking care of himself. When he moved into his most recent apartment, he gave me the spare key, in case of emergencies. Well in his most recent fit, when I wouldn’t bring him a soda, he spammed me again. Out of pettiness I texted, “I find it interesting you don’t bother your kids this much.” Because... well it’s true, why am I, the niece helping him this much? I bring him groceries (out of my own money), take him to doctors appointments, help him move every time he get sick kicked out of a place, bring him his medicine from the pharmacy... anyway he texted, “won’t happen again. Take my key to our cousin” (we share a cousin, long story...). Again out of pettiness I replied, “you forgot to take your medicine,” because that is also true, he becomes very unpleasant to be around when he doesn’t take his medicine but he hates being reminded to take it. I didn’t hear from him after that.

Fast forward to my work. I’m a night worker at a motel. I get a phone call from a rude lady saying she’ll come for the key. I think she’s a customer— hello! I’m at work!— and ask her which key and all that. She tells me I’m stupid (along with some cuss words), so I hang up because I don’t deserve to be spoken to that way. Then I realize she was talking about my uncle. So now I’m very hurt that he would do that. I tried to call him to confront him on why he would do that but he either didn’t answer the phone or has me blocked.

After everything Ive done for him, I can’t believe he still treats me this way. I’ve told him I don’t like how he treats me, I’ve warned him if he continued to do so I would cut him off. It will be hard because I know my parents will still be in contact with him. And it’s also hard because I care about him but I don’t deserve this! I took care of him the best I could with the limited resources I have. He even put me $300+ in debt. He owes my father more than that.

Anyway if you’ve gotten this far, I wanna say thank you. Please send encouraging words. I’m crying as I type this.