Dad remarried - wife accusing me
Background: my dad recently got married. It’s been 4 months now.
The story: I had a stomach ache from something i ate. My dad always told me if I needed something at night to text him or call him or if needed to knock on their bedroom door. They have a mini pharmacy in their room and not else where because there are other kids in the house. At around 1:00 am I went to make myself tea hoping that it would calm my stomach down but the pain became more uncomfortable. It then became 2:00 am. I heard a blow dryer from their room so I thought they were awake and thought it be will quicker and faster to just knock on the door and get a painkiller.
His wife answered and she was in a bath robe. You can understand what I mean by saying that. I thought it was too late to turn around now so I asked for a pill. She opened the door of their room and walked in and I assumed it was fine to walk in too. My hands were shaky when I took one pill out so it fell on the floor so I took another one and walked out.
I woke up this morning and my dad was angry. His wife is accusing me of pretending to be sick to see inside their room, that I pretended to take a pill and threw it on the ground, that I walked in uninvited and looked around the room, how they’re shocked that this behavior would come out of a 17 year old and that I should have never knocked on the door of newly married couple.
Before my parents separated they weren’t living like every other couple. They were living like roommates so my sister and I would just walk in and out or knock on the door so there are new things that I’m learning from this marriage like what the boundaries are. Consider me naive with this stuff.
As for why I didn’t call or text. I don’t know it didn’t pop into my head. I thought they were still awake and that knocking would be faster.
My dad is already telling me that he’s tried defending me so many times in front of his wife because of my mood swings (they’re stress related) and that I ruined the picture that he has tried painting of me in front of his wife and how she could start acting petty now and treat me badly if I keep doing this as if I done it on purpose?
I feel like it’s not fair because if it was her daughter knocking on the door it wouldn’t have brought the same response or reaction
@elena01
Hello, again. Your repeated stomach problems seem to be worrying. Are they diet-related (as you tell at the beginning of your message) or mood-related (as you wrote at the end)?
It looks as if it was some kind of competition between you and your dad's new wife, like you were rivals for your dad's love and attention. You must also bear some physical resemblance to your mother, who must have been an important person in your dad's life.
You might feel not to good, too, in this love triangle. I believe it takes a lot of wisdom and responsibility from your dad to keep the things (being a father vs. being a husband) in the right balance.
