Healing from my toxic family(need advice)
I ran away from my abusive toxic family ihave been with them 30 years i tried to cpntact my mother she blocked me actully i married a gur whose been with for 10 years and they threaten to ki*ll me after all i keep thinking how i can live withput them all life long and sometimes i remember some beautifull memories with my mum and cry in the middle of eating or sitting with my husband although she hurts me so deeply. And my husband has the same wound from his mother and we always fight and sometimes we hurt each other but then opologize and regret it how can we heal how can i heal and live freely
@passionateEyes6948
First of all, kudos to you for making the decision to be away from the abusive environment and choosing yourself. It's very understandable for you to still care and miss them. It shows how nice of a person you are when you can still remember the good times even after everything that happened. It says everything about your strength of love you had towards them, even if what you recieved in return was toxicity. And seems like you already have your family, the person who have been there with you through it all, your husband with you.
Sending both of you lots of strength. 🤍
@River thanks for your kind message it warmed my heart 🤍 can i message you to talk ?
@passionateEyes6948
Sure thing! My replies probably will be very slow for now though due to my ongoing exams this month. 🩵
How are you doing sorry I am just now seeing this post.
@passionateEyes6948, I am so sorry to hear how deeply you have been impacted by the treatment of your family, as someone who grew up in a toxic household you have my deepest empathy and condolences. I know the process of cutting contact is hard and those feelings of grief hit hard and unpredictably, but please give yourself as much grace as possible and remember that this is the best option for not just your ability to thrive and live happily but to stay safe as well.
Cutting contact with loved ones is never easy but it is possible and you WILL come out of this stronger than you could ever predict.
Take care of yourself and surround yourself with as much love and support as you can during this time🫂❤️
@OlliePop2002 thank you very much i really appreaciate your message so dearly....its really hard but God be with me i hope i can heal all these wounds through time and find peace ..🤍
@passionateEyes6948 I genuinely hope that you can do this too 💜🥰