How to feel better about being copied???
So basically, I have a sister who is older than me that has copied nearly everything I want or do regarding my style. This sister is pretty. I'm the ugly sister. What bothers me is how she's copying what I want and my goals and getting those things. Before, she copied the way I did my eyeliner, my eye color and my hair color. I HATED the way I did my eyeliner. I don't do it that way anymore. It wasn't a wing and she copied me of all people when she has the space to do her liner in a wing shape.
I'm just really upset because this sister has bullied me for being ugly. She is still the loudest when it comes to announcing that. It seems like she's trying to be just like me, but she has some very mean things to say about me with the family. I'm not considering myself a part of it because of how they treat me.
I now realize that none of this had anything to do with me. It was insecurity on my sister's part, but that still doesn't help me. I still feel mad at her for copying this most recent thing and I feel like she's getting all the credit for it. I'm scared she will do this with everything and it will make me feel like crap! What do I do? Not telling her anything is the most obvious thing. Btw. She's 31 and I'm 28.
@Lightblue77
I'm sorry your sister has ever called you ugly or made you feel this way.
Then why copy you?
You are not ugly and you are not less than her.
Never let anyone make you feel this way 💚
@Amanda84 man! I really need to. I usually let everything get to me even when it has nothing to do with me. Thank you for the support.
If she doesn't respect or value her then you should be in different to her opinions. What is important is what you think of yourself.. but I understand about what you said he said you are being a trendsetter, and I think that is awesome... Find comfort in the fact that your choices are being copied most likely because they are good choices. Which in turns means that you are in the right path. You seem a smart loving person and that is something wonderful to be... Not to mention that you were brave enough to share your feelings openly here.. I think you are doing great.. keep only positive things around you and you will feel positive as well...
Have a hug and a great day! ☺️
@WiseCaribbean tysm! I can't go without talking about how I feel. Lol. Sometimes it's a bad thing, but it keeps me feeling mentally well.
It's great that you are able to talk about the things you feel.. what is also good to make decisions or change directions when a situation is making you feel bad...
Another hug and good luck!