I don't know what to do
My boyfriends sister and her gf suddenly are not treating me well. I don't know why but the sister told my boyfriend she doesn't trust me. And now they were going to plan a family trip for a birthday in the family and the two of them told him they didn't want me to go. My boyfriend of course said he's not going without me. But it hurts and Idk what to do anymore. Does anyone have advice.
@adaptableBunny1584
I think when someone all of a sudden decides they do not trust or have an issue with someone the adult thing to do is talk about what it is about not assume you know why .....
Look at every movie or story about miscommunication or people who assume something based on a mistake. If you do not want to face her directly although i feel that is best ask BF to find out WHY
@adaptableBunny1584 I’m sorry to hear that your boyfriend’s sister and her girlfriend have treated you that way. It does seem like a good thing that your boyfriend has declined to go on the family trip without you. Could you plan your own trip with just your boyfriend instead?
I'm so sorry to hear that.
That must be really painful and confusing.
Firstly, kudos to your boyfriend for standing up for you!
Consider having an open conversation with your boyfriend about:
1. The reasons behind their distrust (if known)
2. How to address the issue together
Possible steps:
1. Ask your boyfriend to discuss with his sister
2. Meet with the sister and her girlfriend to clear the air
3. Set boundaries if necessary
Remember:
1. You deserve respect
2. Your boyfriend supports you
3. Family dynamics can be complex
@adaptableBunny1584
Your relationship is between you and your bf. As long as he supports you and stands up for you. Everyone else is a none factor. Dont be hurt by their petty behavior. Unless they are adult enough to tell you what their issue is with you. Ignore them. Its probably pure jealousy! Dont pay attention to small minded people dear. Hold you head high and remain unaffected and unbothered. It will hurt them even more. Their so busy trying to hurt you with their pettiness. They are the issue. Not you. Dont own that. Dont identify with that. Who are they? Are they on some pedastal in your life? I dont think so. They are just regular people. Who cares what they think at all. Again. If they were mature. They would have talked to you like an adult. The day of that birthday celebration. Go out with your BF somewhere else and have fun! Dont let anybody steal your peace and your joy. Its not theirs. Its yours!
@adaptableBunny1584 🥲
Why do they not trust you?