I tried
A little over a decade ago, I decided to stop talking to someone who I wasn’t compatible with. Then I moved on with my life to the point that I completely forgot about her. Well, the other day, I remembered her and looked her up on social media. I also attempted to put the ball in her court by liking a few of her posts.
Well, she was very upset and responded in a very passive aggressive manner. This was by creating a couple of videos where she lip synced to a few songs about how I was leading her along and that I didn’t care about her. She also created a video about finding content about not wanting to have anything to do with anyone who pushed her away. Meanwhile, she didn’t directly talk to me about it.
So I talked to my counselor who told me to move on. I just decided not to respond to her.
@Summershy also go to my very first post. Read it, I think it’ll resonate with you
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@Summershy
I guess putting the ball in her court actually helped you remember why you felt you weren't compatible in the first place.
I agree, for one thing she wasn’t a good friend to me. There were many times where she make it seem like she wanted to do things with me. Then if someone else was around who was of more interest, she would run off with them and ignore me.
As an example , we got together for a New Year’s Eve Sleep over at my house. She was more interested in my sister than me. She even decided to sleep in her room over mine. I was really mad the next day too.
There were times where I uninvited her to things when she wanted to bring her other friends along. Yes, she had a fit too.
She would also only contact me when it was convenient for her. Otherwise, she has all these other friends and people who were more important.
Finally, she would get very nasty if I told her that she wasn’t a good friend and then turn things back on me.
@Summershy
I understand. All the examples you've mentioned show that she didn't respect or value the friendship and it was more of a convenience for her to have you as a backup plan when nothing else was happening. It makes sense for you to protect yourself from that.
I also cut off the friendship for the wrong reasons as well.
For example, both of us so have disabilities and both of us looked to peruse our education. While I was self determined and go and get an education, she kept attempting to go to school bragging she was going to do this or that. However, she kept whining and quitting.
For example, she started going to a 4 year college to pursue psychology while having this big plan in place. Well the next thing I know, she dropped out because she struggled with the blended learning style. I got so mad at her because she just started and gave up too soon. So she told me that she was going to attend a different school studying early childhood education.
When I tried giving her suggestions, all she saw was a half empty glass. So I cut it off and called her a whiner and a quitter and that she needed to get off her butt and apply herself. After she left me a very nasty voice mail.
”I am sick of your crap and if you ever try to befriend me again I will xyz.”