Questioning friendship and relationship boundaries
I’ve been overthinking a little bit too much about girl vs. boy friendships while someone gets in a relationship. My male bestfriend just months ago told me we could no longer have that bound because of jealousy and trust issues of a girl I never knew of. I tried to accept that although it hurt so much, I told him it was okay, and everything was on text. He blocked me after I ignored him to avoid problems since he told me I couldn’t be close or friendly. This really made me question if I was irrational on acting how I did. Because from what I see it, the best way is to involve both parties to at least talk about it. I think he liked me at a certain period of time but I never tried to do something since I didn’t wanna confuse his actions. From my point of view there is a misunderstanding and Idk if I should reach out.
@valeriargx
I hope I’m understanding this correctly.
Your male best friend has a girlfriend now and ended your friendship because of jealousy on his girlfriend’s part I’m assuming? Please correct me if I’m incorrect.
@Ar4571 hey! Thanks for reading! They are now a couple but before he ended our friendship he just liked the girl, they were not a couple by the time we stopped talking.
@valeriargx
I see. That’s certainly an odd predicament for a guy to end a friendship with a close female friend just because he developed a crush on another girl. I don’t want to make any assumptions so I do apologise in advance but does he have any insecurities or lack self control?
for me, as a guy, the key to having a good friendship with a girl is to accept that it won’t become romantic.
@Ar4571 I totally agree with you. And it’s okay. From what he let me know about himself he didn’t portray he was insecure. On the other hand, I’m not sure what you mean by self control?. I don’t know if at some point I misunderstood his attitude towards me because I don’t wanna confuse friendship with something else that might not be true. I always thought he was just being kind because I’m so bad at catching “signs” but he never verbally told me about some feelings he had towards me (if he had them) although many friends said he was flirting with me. Ngl, he left me really confused about my feelings, since two days before he texted me that we went to watch a movie together and everything was just fine. So the fact that he did that in the span of two days is odd for me if he already knew the girl was jealous.
